The media stimulates the phallic obsession seen in the controversy between sertanejo and trans reporter

“Women do not exist”, said the French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan, a disciple of Freud. This phrase, taken out of context, is used by the sexist and misogynistic thinking – whether consciously or not – that being feminine isn’t that important because she doesn’t have a penis.

Already over the centuries the patriarchal world had taken care to anticipate this deplorable vision of women. Society has always submitted to the phallus, a symbol of power and superiority. It made him an overrated object of desire.

When the sertanejo Bruno confronts the transsexual journalist Lisa Gomes, of ‘TV Fama’, and asks her “do you have a dick?”, he reinforces this hyperbolic importance of the penis. In front of him is a person who claims to be a woman, with feminine features, but the sertanejo wants to know whether or not the journalist has a member like his.

Even in front of a camera and witnesses, the singer thinks he has the right to invade the deepest (and potentially fragile) layer of a person’s intimacy.

An act of disrespect towards the journalist and transsexuals in general. Attitude with self-destructive effect – how did Bruno not see the damage of such an indiscretion on his public image? He asked for forgiveness, however, the damage is irreversible.

There is a male obsession, regardless of sexual orientation, with other people’s penises. No wonder the figure of the ‘manja-rola’ is a tradition in public toilets. The grass on the other side is always greener – or, in this case, maybe bigger and thicker.

In the gay universe, having an “XL” or “XXL” member guarantees success in hookup apps. The user is generally objectified by the inches he has to offer. Bigger, more desired.

On celebrity websites, photos of famous men in their underwear or speedos generate bold headlines and uncontrollable “zooming in” to see them up close.

Even the press is phallocentric. Just check the amount of articles about the dowry of the singer Léo Santana and other artists seen as cumbersome.

While the vagina is the butt of derogatory jokes and comments in everyday life and even in audiovisual productions, the male organ arouses exaltation and envy. Teledramaturgy has explored the theme with different approaches.

In ‘Tieta’, broadcast on Globo in 1989, Osnar’s (José Mayer) fame as a gifted man caused delirium and fainting in some nuns in the city. In the same soap opera, the widow Perpétua (Joana Fomm) kept her dead husband’s penis in a box, as if it were a relic.

Between 2009 and 2011, the HBO series “Hung” showed an ordinary man with a failed life. He had one consolation left: his big cock. His friends praised him. Ray (Thomas Jane) has made his daily bread from privileged anatomy.

“Often we see a person only for his sexual organ, without considering everything else, including the personality,” explains Lucas De Vito, a psychologist specializing in the sexuality of gay men and one of the hosts of the podcast PodeGay.

“We learn to reduce someone to an organ, especially a penis. The journalist offended by the singer, for example, has a life story, his temperament, his tastes, and ended up reduced to only one characteristic, ”says the specialist.

“The phallocentrism is explicit. Men reproduce it to reassert themselves. If you have a penis, you have power, you are at the top of society. That’s why a big penis is also so appreciated.

The visibility of famous transsexuals undergoing sex reassignment surgery, such as models Roberta Close and Léa T, seems to stimulate the invasive curiosity, especially from self-identified heterosexual men, to know whether or not other transsexuals are undergoing surgery.’

“In the case of a transsexual person, when his sexual organ is questioned, invalidation occurs, treating him as an object, not as a person,” says De Vito.

“This embarrassing situation, as happened to journalist Lisa Gomes, can generate insecurity, fear, anxiety, depression and even increase the risk of suicide”.

People and the media in general need to revisit the way they overvalue the penis, stigmatize the vagina, and the treatment of non-cisgender people. A matter of common sense and humanity.

Source: Terra