If you use any of these nine phrases, you are more emotionally secure than most people
Emotionally secure people are empowered and confident. They navigate the world with conviction and do what’s meaningful to them. We have found that this sense of security makes them better at dealing with conflict and being vulnerable with others, mainly because they don’t seek external validation. But it takes a lot of work to get there.
According to Cortney S. Warren, an American psychologist and author of the book “Letting Go of Your Ex,” if you use any of these nine sentences below, you’re more emotionally secure than most people.
1. “Let me think before I answer”
One of the most striking characteristics of emotionally secure people is that they express themselves well. They choose their responses carefully and are not impulsive in their reactions.
Similar phrases:
- • “I’m frustrated and need some time to myself. I don’t want to say something I might regret later.”
- • “I don’t have an answer right now. Can we resume this conversation tomorrow?”
two. “NO”
Emotionally secure people feel comfortable setting boundaries. They are clear about what they will and will not do based on their own moral principles, needs, and desires.
Similar phrases:
- • “Sorry, but I can’t help you because I have too many other commitments.”
- • “Thanks for the invite, but it’s not something I want to do.”
3. “I do not feel comfortable”
They always communicate their needs respectfully. This means they express how they feel when someone treats them badly. If they feel their boundaries are being violated, they will do something to bring about change.
Similar phrases:
- • “When you say things like that, I feel hurt and angry.”
- • “If you treat me like this, I’ll leave because it’s not healthy for me.”
4. “That’s who I am and I’m proud of it”
They are consistent in how they behave in the world. This makes their presence predictable and safe, because friends and loved ones know they are who they say they are.
Similar phrases:
- • “What you see is what you get.”
- • “You may not like this about me, but I feel good.”
5. “Just the way I am?”
Emotionally secure people can take criticism without reacting aggressively. If they get negative feedback, they don’t take it personally. Instead, they see it as an opportunity to improve.
Similar phrases:
- • “I didn’t realize I did this so often. Thanks for pointing that out.”
- • “Wow, I think I say this often.”
6. “I’ll work on it”
In meaningful relationships, emotionally secure people make an effort to change when necessary. They know that taking action is the key to personal growth and strengthening connections.
Similar phrases:
- • “I understand that this is important to you, so I’ll try to be more compassionate when I talk to you.”
- • “I’m not very patient, I know. I’ll try to be less intrusive.”
7. “Sorry you’re having a hard time. How can I help you?”
Their empathic and non-judgmental nature in relationships makes them excellent at offering support. They also understand that if someone is having a bad day, it doesn’t reflect on them.
Similar phrases:
- • “You seem upset and I would like to help you.”
- • “I see it’s been difficult for you, but know that you have my support.”
8. “This is important to me”
Having a solid belief system is crucial to being emotionally secure as it guides our choices. When a value is violated, emotionally secure people are able to stand up for what they deem moral and fair.
Similar phrases:
- • “This is very important to me, even if it doesn’t matter to you.”
- • “I don’t think you’re acting ethically, and I can’t look at it without standing up for my beliefs.”
9. “I’ll try!”
Emotionally secure people have cultivated a sense of inner security that tells them they’ll be fine even if one more attempt fails. This allows them to try new things like hobbies, friendships, travel and even personal coping strategies.
Similar phrases:
- • “I’ll try next time.”
- • “Maybe I’m not good at this, but I’m willing to try!”
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Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
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