Let’s talk about how to masturbate to take even better care of yourself, your pleasure and your self-esteem!
Sex is much more than pleasure. Sex messes up our self-esteem, self-confidence, courage, creativity, sensuality, initiative. And is it worth having sex with yourself? Clear! Never! Here because, let’s talk about how to masturbate so you can take even better care of yourself, your pleasure and your self-esteem!
After all, a woman who is coping well with her sexuality, who is able to give herself total surrender, can begin to activate the powerful neural connections that make her more confident and motivated to explore life’s paths.
When sex is well done and stimulated, we can have an adrenergic discharge (the body’s secretion of the neurotransmitters adrenaline and norepinephrine) that occurs at the moment of orgasm.
That is, orgasm brings a good mood, discharge of emotions, and can also help reduce premenstrual tension (PMS).
Before proceeding, I invite you to deepen your sexuality with the help of astrology. Create the sex map here and be surprised by the personal breakthroughs that can happen.
Do you know your body?
In addition to being an act of self-love, masturbation is also essential to start stimulating your body and discovering your erogenous zones. I ask you:
- Do you know your clitoris and how much do you like being stimulated there? Learn all about the clitoris here.
- know yours G-spot (find out more here)?
- Do you know which parts of your body are most sensitive?
While very delicate, the neural network of the vulva and clitoris is immensely powerful when played out correctly. And the best way to activate this system is to touch.
I invite you to understand all about female masturbation herewhere I share 12 tips to improve your pleasure.
6 tips on how to consciously masturbate
Many women don’t know how to please themselves. So here are 5 tips on how to consciously masturbate.
1 – Conscious masturbation to start
Most women start touching themselves first, then get turned on. And this can be a major problem.
Rubbing the vagina without being aroused can cause calluses to the nerve endings in the region, which are delicate. Thus, the vulva falls asleep, that is, the person experiences less and less pleasure, which decreases the libido and makes orgasm difficult.
The advice is: start masturbating consciously. Before touching yourself, look for a mental stimulus that triggers your desire, be it a memory or a fantasy.
2 – Using lube can be very good
Often the natural lubrication of the vagina is not enough. So using water-based lubricants, vaginal moisturizers, or coconut oil can be great.
By the way, coconut oil is a more natural option that can even moisturize the mucous membrane and protect it from bacteria. But be careful: coconut oil cannot be used with condoms, as it could break the protection!
If you touch it “dry” it can rub coarsely and callous the nerve endings. When we are not properly lubricated, mini vaginal cracks can occur. And those cracks can open the door for bacteria.
The use of saliva as a lubricant is also not legal because it can cause rapid oxidation of the skin and compromise proper lubrication at the “hour of the hour”.
3 – Arousal can start from the bed
Female desire can (and a lot!) be stimulated well before sex or masturbation.
It’s great that you can feed your mind so that masturbation can happen in a healthy way. The less mental stimuli you give yourself, the more you have to work on physical friction, which can damage your intimate sensitivity.
The idea, therefore, is that masturbation also takes place in the mind. How do you do? Choose the feature that will most add to your excitement.
For some women she will read erotic stories, some will prefer to have steamy conversations online, some fantasize about stories in their mind, watch romantic movies…
Find the best way to excite your mind and try starting that stimulation before you touch yourself.
4 – Go beyond the hands
While many women only use their hands to touch each other, it can be nice to give yourself some other stimulation. For example:
- vibrators (but in moderation, okay? Excessive use can be bad — read more here about erotic products.
- stimulation of the clitoris with the hand, while simultaneously introducing a dildo into the vagina
- creams that cause hot/cold sensations
- wand of pleasure
5 – Discover the trigger that increases your pleasure
While you are masturbating or having sex with someone, your brain is feeding your body information about what you are feeling. The problem is that this information is not always real.
For example, have you ever driven for hours on the road and when you got out of your car it felt like you were still moving? Or have you ever been on a spinning carousel at an amusement park and found yourself still spinning when you got out? Here’s what happens!
Negative triggers can make sex negative without actually being negative. For example:
- Let’s say you felt used by a person who seemed to dislike you in passing.
- That person took your hand and put it on his genitals, to touch it.
- And if you now get stuck in similar situations with other people, it could be the brain giving negative signals even if the current relationship is great.
- A negative mental trigger has been activated.
The opposite also happens: when we find a trigger for a good relationship, it can also serve as a trigger for the next one to be good.
Example:
- Let’s say you had wonderful sex, listening to the sound of rain.
- Whenever you hear this same noise, you might get the impression that the act has become just as wonderful, because your brain sends out signals for it.
- Therefore, it takes this awareness to learn to “manipulate” sexual activity, especially during masturbation, where you are in charge of the activity from start to finish.
Take something you like and amplify that feeling to enjoy it when needed. Like a specific song, a way to touch a part of the body, a fantasy.
Form your positive trigger in masturbation and amplify that good feeling during your relationships, so they are more enjoyable.
6 – Cleanse your vagina of harmful memories
Few people know this, but a woman’s experiences can accumulate in the uterus and vaginal canal.
Therefore, when you experience fear, pain, trauma or difficulty, all of this is forever recorded in the form of cellular memory in these organs.
It is possible that a woman cannot have an orgasm because her uterus is full of harmful memories concerning sexuality. And as much as I don’t consciously remember these records, they still reverberate.
For example:
- When a girl spends years listening to phrases like: “Close your legs!”, what can be registered in her is the unconscious belief that her vagina needs to be closed, muffled, hidden.
- Or a woman who came from a family that only advised sex after marriage. In this case, she may be forced to repress her sexual desire and reverberate the feeling that making love or masturbating is wrong, dangerous, sinful.
- It is also very common for a woman to have experienced some type of abuse, often without realizing it.
- When you feel “pressured” to sleep with someone (either to please, out of fear of losing the person or some other problem) your body realizes that it’s a violation and can stop and not allow you to surrender to the pleasure.
- Not to mention harassment, cheating, situations where she felt belittled or ridiculed, etc.
You can work on the impacts of these events on your mind and also on a clearing of your womb memory.
That’s why I advise all women to do it experience known as “Reconsecration of the mother’s womb“.
This method is done in one experience. In it, we carry out practices of bombast (find out more here) and breathing, to improve your genital health and also “pull” memories installed in your uterus and vagina.
The womb reacts to the Reconsecration and begins to contract to expel the memories. The process is so strong that most women experience cramps during the experience, due to the ejection contractions.
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Roberta Struzani (falecomigo@robertastruzani.com.br)
– Therapist specialized in sexuality and gynecological health. He provides face-to-face and online sessions focused on self-knowledge, self-esteem enhancement, and female reproductive health. His main working tool is Pompoarismo.
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Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
