For therapists and human behavior specialists, it is necessary to let go of the stigmas that limit us
Relationships play a crucial role in our lives, bringing joy, support and personal growth. However, it is not always easy to keep them healthy and harmonious. Problems can arise due to a variety of reasons such as lack of communication, unrequited expectations, and conflicts of interest. When these problems persist, they can lead to emotional detachment and even breakup.
Fortunately, there are approaches that can help us overcome these challenges and cultivate positive relationships. One is the Law of Attraction, a principle which states that our thoughts and emotions have the power to attract similar experiences into our lives.
By understanding and applying these principles, you can transform negative patterns and create healthier, more rewarding connections.
Second William Sanchestherapist, writer, human behavior and neurolinguistic programming specialist, the arrival of the month of Valentine’s Day is an interesting time to reflect on patterns in relationships.
“It is common for people to break up with their relationships and, after some time, start a new relationship that has exactly the same problems as the previous one. With that, we can see that many of us repeat mental patterns of what we believe we deserve, attracting the same vibes over and over again,” she reveals.
Lack of self-esteem opens the door to trouble
The expert believes that this demonstrates people’s lack of self-esteem.
“When someone doesn’t have good self-esteem, they will believe they deserve to be in a relationship with a partner who isn’t exactly what they would like. There is a concept called “The Broken Windows Theory,” which originated after people noticed that a building in New York City with several broken windows each day had more glass shattered. With that, the psychologists who started the theory realized that neat and well-maintained buildings were not attacked with stones or wood. Meanwhile, buildings that were falling apart were commonly being vandalized by people. I mean, when things are really bad, they tend to get even worse over time,” he says.
For Sanches, ingrained stereotypes can cause limiting beliefs that keep people repeating the same patterns.
“Thinking that no man wants a serious relationship, women are gold diggers and other things like that will only bring negative consequences. The more we believe these claims, the more this will be replicated around the world. These beliefs that usually disturb us need to be worked on with the power of our mind,” she points out.
Problems that start in childhood
The therapist believes that many of these problems in developing a relationship can come from childhood, seeing a problematic relationship between the parents themselves.
“At school we don’t learn to relate. There is no relationship course to make things easier. We learn all our lives, smashing our faces and banging our heads until we figure out what’s good and what’s bad. For this, we must learn, evolve and understand that we are all different. When we get rid of these beliefs and stigmas that limit us, we will be able to seek a healthy relationship without fear of being trapped in a relationship that does not bring good vibes into our lives,” she concludes.
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