HI!!! Every man for himself.
Who doesn’t know a friend, friend or relative who wants to cast the first stone. Pride or arrogance is the opposite of humility and fighting it is not as simple as it seems.
It affects people who think they are literally bigger or better than they really are. It could be the result of an inferiority complex, a childhood trauma, a defense mechanism, a need for self-assertion or even an enormous desire to be accepted, respected and, why not, loved.
The trail left is one of indignation, anger, hatred and even sadness. The presumptuous never goes unnoticed and is always remembered. They say that a proud root always protects itself to appear humble, even knowing it is a fake.
Even the adjective “superb” or “superb” can be positive. Superb food is excellent, tasty. Superb trip was unforgettable.
I’ve already written about five of the seven deadly sins: sloth, anger, envy, greed, and gluttony. Just click on the links. Lust will wrap up the series next week.
(Read while listening “box of firecrackers” by my friend from Sergipe DJ Prosa).
Arrogance, pretense, arrogance, contempt
As soon as I sit down at a table in a bar or restaurant, I worry about asking the waiter’s name when I’m served. In addition to being polite, show respect for those who will serve me.
With doormen, receptionists, supermarket cashiers and simple people, I like to treat them as an equal. They are there, working hard, serving, earning some money and almost always smiling while having fun. Nothing fairer than showing sincere respect for them. And a little humility and modesty.
I’ve already made friends like this, especially with waiters like Expedito, the nocturnal artist of the Lagoa Santa Albergue. He was almost part of the group with so much company and presence. And Giuseppe, waiter of the hotel where we stayed in Sicily. Unforgettable guy so helpful and friendly.
The proud treat such people as subordinates, as if they didn’t exist. They will bring you food and drink to satisfy your hunger and thirst, but again, the subject does not respect or make eye contact with the person. Anyone who mistreats a waiter and a doorman cannot be a good person. It never fails.
The definition of this Capital Sin is: Pride can be defined as excessive pride. It is the tendency to consider oneself better than other people. It is the sin of the extremely vain person who thinks and acts as if he were above everything and everyone. Its opposite is humility.
Excessive pride serves to compensate for a kind of inferiority. These are people who, once promoted, think they have become the president of the company. They climb onto a matchbox and act like ruthless despots.
They pull the rug out on those who helped them, completely forgetting who, one day, helped them get to where they are. They hide or are ashamed of their origins, their past and origins, old friends, the places they frequented when they were “down” and even close relatives, essential in their journey.
What about the nouveau riche? One of the worst kind of humanity. They behave like arrogant billionaires and masters of the world. Already the ancient popular wisdom said that “who has skins”. Especially in this day and age with so much inequality in the world. It’s tacky to flaunt clothes, cars, status, watches, etc.
I’m not asking anyone for a vow of poverty, just a little solidarity with the neediest.
The worst kind are those who are nothing, but live as if they were Elon Musk. They mistreat, snub, belittle and despise precisely those they envy most. When you reveal a trip’s destination they say “Look, I was there last year and it rained almost every day. I hope you are lucky this year. When you say you’ve been to a restaurant in a certain city, they reply, “Did you go to Chez Pantola? NO? It is the best restaurant in town with 7 Goodyear stars.”
They hear about a promotion or a change of company and immediately correct themselves: “I too was promoted last month. I am now the Finance Director of Lili’s Grocery Store and the Mancos Raccoons Ambassador at the Brazilian Embassy in Kyrgyzstan. And this company you’re going to work for, I don’t know! Until the other day it was recording recurring losses”.
They are unbearable.
Sin or virtue?
Try to be humble when playing football. You will be ignored and will not receive a pass. He will not see the color of the ball, he will miss all the tackles and will be replaced before the end of the first half by a coach who huffs and puffs. He will go unnoticed by the press and cursed by the fans.
For the Catholic Church, pride is perhaps the first and worst of all sins, as it gives rise to all others. But it can also be seen as a winning quality, whether in sports, the corporate world or entertainment.
“Pride is the belief that you can be on the plane without the divine presence,” explains the doctor of religious sciences Rodrigo Caldeira. “Contemporary society is more narcissistic and individualistic. A certain degree of arrogance and arrogance is rewarded,” says psychiatrist José Outeiral, a member of the International Psychoanalytic Association and a specialist in children and adolescents. This is what an article recently published in Superinteresting reveals.
Conveying the image of being the best, and believing it firmly, not only scares but also inhibits the enemy, opponent, competitor or colleague. In life, at work, in school, on the stages and fields around, high self-esteem is essential for our survival in this increasingly savage capitalism.
On social networks everyone wants to be right and pride lies down and rolls over. It creates disagreements, destroys friendships and families, foments quarrels, causes layoffs and fights thanks to the exacerbated self-centeredness of all of us with a cell phone in hand. The wave maker’s AK-47 in the 21st century.
To stop being arrogant, just look, observe and respect others, those who are truly close and living with you at the moment.
It’s not easy, but necessary.
to see and read
Movie: The social network / David Fincher (2010). Facebook is the great evil of humanity.
If there’s one bastard in tech companies, it’s Mark Zuckerberg. Much worse in character than their peers Gates, Jobs, Bezos and Musk. In an eventual UFC, I would easily root for Elon.
The film is essential for understanding how arrogance, pride and vanity work. It shows the journey of the creator of Facebook and his life before, during and after the success of his “creation”. Not only parties, trips and good times are represented. It also shows behind the scenes and the dirty tricks that went on behind the network and the multi-billion dollar business before it exploded.
The great intuition, and also the biggest problem, of facebook and its variants, Instagram and WhatsApp, was to have freed the intrinsic and exhibitionist desire of every human being. In a planetary-scale show of narcissism, each individual thinks their own life is better or cooler than that of their friend, neighbor, or colleague.
Exponentially, this has raised to the nth degree the different social and economic conditions of each person, their strengths, weaknesses and above all. In addition to anxieties, dilemmas, traumas, complexes and the need for acceptance.
If I don’t use Facebook, I can. Without Insta and Zap it’s impossible, unfortunately.
Book: The Picture of Dorian Gray – Oscar Wilde (1891). Being a peacock isn’t everything.
Vanity is an intrinsic characteristic of a proud person. It is the shield of beauty and appearance used to hide weaknesses, insecurities, fears and anguish. A defense mechanism to divert the attention of the viewer, observe and judge that beautiful specimen of mankind. Not so cool that he or she goes crazy creating a smokescreen to fool anyone who dares to approach and relate to them.
Oscar Wilde’s classic book portrays vanity very well. In 19th-century Victorian England, Basil is an up-and-coming painter who introduces his friend Henry to handsome young Dorian Gray. The latter had agreed to pose for the artist’s new painting.
The friendship between Henry and Dorian snaps immediately. After seeing the finished painting and the perfect image of him, Henry comments on the threatened beauty of his new friend, who will age while the work will remain everlasting. Dorian says he would do anything to remain eternally beautiful in some sort of Faustian pact. Successive tragedies plague his life while he remains as handsome as ever.
Wilde’s universal theme and unique style, with acid humor and keen eye, made the book a classic of world literature. It is a scathing criticism of the hypocrisy of the rapidly changing English society of the time.
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Source: Terra
Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
