What would happen if you took the passionate, emotional relationships of the characters in “50 Shades of Grey” and transferred them to, say, a magician academy? This will be the plot of one of the books by Russian writer Matilda Starr! She can rightly be considered one of the most popular creators of modern romance novels in Russia. VOICE decided to find out why we love reading erotic novels so much, whether they help strengthen relationships and whether passionate stories from books are possible in real life.
Matilda, why do you think women love reading romance or erotic novels so much? Do they lack vivid emotions in life and replace them with bookish ones? Or is it not just that?
I’ll tell you a secret, men read them too! They admit it less often – yes. But they read. I think everyone has enough vivid emotions in life. You collect utility receipts – and now there are a lot of strong emotions. Just a little different… In fact, the value of the emotions we get from books lies precisely in the fact that their experience is a controlled process. If you don’t like it, you can scroll down several pages. Or even pick up another book. It’s certain. No one will force you and the heroine to languish in dragon captivity if you don’t want to. On the other hand, if you wish, have a cinema in your head. Every day there’s a premiere, every second there’s an Oscar for best kissing scene. Why not spend the evening with a cup of tea and a fascinating journey through the pages of love adventures? Where else can you have incredible adventures, experience a kaleidoscope of feelings, find love, defeat evil rivals – and all this without leaving a comfortable chair.
Do you believe that such brilliant love stories are possible in real life? Or do they only stay on the pages of books?
Frankly, it’s better for brilliant love stories to stay on the pages of books. They are brilliant because there are a lot of emotions, constant conflicts, insurmountable obstacles, suffering, the pleasure of rare encounters… In real life, all this is useless. The ideal formula is to have a stable relationship without all these emotional swings, and to get the adrenaline pumping in the pages of the novels.
Can reading romance novels somehow help couples strengthen their relationships?
I think romance novels are a good thing. And yet, I would not entrust them with the functions of family psychologist. Furthermore, reading remains an intimate process. At the very least, let each of the partners have their own copy of the book, so that instead of strengthening the relationship, there is no quarrel over who removed the bookmark and crumpled the page! And family issues can be discussed while opening a bottle of wine and ordering pizza. Well, or with a psychologist, I believe in it.
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