The Poliamorous family uses calculation sheet to reconcile sex and tasks: “use the Bible to judge us”

On the ground, Kel, Bruno, Diego and Jennifer spoke of the family agreement that challenges traditional conventions

Does love necessarily follow a formula? Since childhood, we are taught that it is common for two people to fall in love and start constituting a family. However, from one historical period to another, the concept of the family has undergone profound transformations. Until Brazilian ConstitutionWhich until 1967 recognized the family only for a wedding between men and women, has changed over the years.

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The last census of the Brazilian Institute of Geography and Statistics (IBGE), issued in the middle of 2025, underlines that Homosexual weddings grew by 1.6% in 2023 and reached 11,198 records, a record. The number has been considered the largest since 2013, when the National Council of Justice (CNJ) guaranteed the right to civil marriage among the people who are part LGBTQIA+ Community.

In Florianópolis, Santa Catarina, a family challenges conventions and social rules. Known as a macettelary family, they are examples of polyamism -A philosophy does not monogamous with life. In it, it is claimed that the human being can love more than one person at the same time and, with consent, have love relationships between them or with others.

‘Meet the Macettelare family’

You Macettilare are composed of Kel and Bruno, who have been together for almost two decades and are parents of two teenagers. In addition to them, there is Diego, Kel’s boyfriend and Jennifer, Bruno’s girl. As reported to EarthIn an exclusive interview, they all live harmoniously, sharing the affections and challenges of everyday life.

“At the beginning it was a bit complicated [morar junto]. Precisely for this attention … I had to divide between three people. And then, at this stage, it was a little complicated, “said Kel, referring to emotional issues.” Living with a person, sharing your way of living with a person, is already difficult. Now images with three … “added Diego, his boyfriend, underlining more practical issues of everyday life, like household chores.

To ensure that common tasks have not become a problem in Polymorous relationshipIt was necessary to create a table. Even Jennifer, who does not live on the spot, but spends a lot of time there, is included in this sheet of calculation. “The advantage is that there are people who also help in the organization. Because when we say:” We do “, everyone does it, everyone helps and we finish cleaning quickly,” Kel said.

A sheet of affection calculation has also been designed to organize the intimacy of the family, so nobody feels fake at home. “We have a table. It has a part of the domestic functions, but also the emotional part […] There are days that are for me and Kel and there are days of her with Bruno, “said Diego.

The beginning: “I found absurd that he wanted to share with others”

THE Macetti family He started in Kel and Bruno’s teenagers in the late 90s. They met because of the work of Kel’s father, married and had their two children, today two teenagers.

Bruno, also coming from a family in which his parents were monogami, is always a polyamorist. For him, it was never a doubt that it was possible to love more than one person. Kel, in turn, had difficulty when his husband approached the question. Created in a religious cradle, the monogamy And he found the opposite unacceptable.

“My family was evangelical, I had that closest creation. My mother did not allow me to do many things. When she talked about it, before I found it absurd that she wanted to share with other people. I thought she didn’t love me,” Kel commented.

After years of dialogue, the couple started making itself available for new experiences, such as visiting houses of oscillation. The first experience led to contradictory feelings, but soon she met in the game. With a few more years of conversation, they took over the polyamists. “I liked the day of the swing house, but then I was very bad because I was going against everything I had learned. So I started asking me. Why is it wrong? If it is happy and I liked it, what’s the problem? It is wrong for others. But the others don’t even have to know what we are doing. It is our relationship.”

Since then, the Polyamorists They had boyfriends, others more serious than others. The housewife even crossed a time when she kept two simultaneous boyfriends. The current Diego and Jennifer arrived in the family just over a year ago. As they live in the same house, they have many contacts with the children of the couple, who know the dynamics.

“They know they are our boyfriends and have no problems. [Diego e Jennifer] They started attending our home as friends, Diego was very close to the youngest and even trained with the oldest. The question evolved, so when there was this “change”, the children already knew the two and us [eu e Bruno] He explained that they would live with us. It was slow but natural, “said Kel.

Prejudice: “They use the Bible to judge us”

The four members of Macetti family met, because they work with Creation of content for adults For the networks and, before the stationary commitment, they even recorded a few times together.

Before this career, Bruno was a real estate broker, Kel was a housewife, Jennifer claims to have worked on a CLT and Diego base, in turn, is the only one who is still divided between influence and work with massage. On Instagram, it maintains a professional profile, included.

As part of the influencing profession, they often share a lot of routine as a family on the internet, which has often proved to be a delicate and unpaid task, since they frequently receive cruel comments.

In many cases, critics suggest that their children are involved in the creation of content and, on a certain occasion, have implied that the Macetti family He recorded inappropriate videos with the house cat, what is not true. “People use the Bible a lot as a shield to judge us, to say it is wrong. They use the name of the devil much more than God in the comments,” said Diego. “What we do is not wrong. Nobody is hit or abused emotionally. Everyone is consenting. He has honesty, he has love, he has respect among us,” he added.

“There were also comments that said: ‘O guys, the boys also take. […] I find the things that people are very absurd very absurd. It is not because we work with content and that we have a relationship as soon as they are [filhos] They are involved in this. We have a personal life, we also have a family, “said Jennifer.

“We have worked for years, but we have never involved them with anything. […] It is very difficult when we will make any recording here at home, when we do it, they are not, but always roll somewhere or in the studio to avoid it. In all these years, they have never had contacts with our profession. They know it, but they are very distant, we are very cautious about it, “Bruno claimed.

In addition to external criticisms, each member lives with a type of family internal criticism. Diego and Jennifer seem to have more acceptance, both for the chosen career and for the family mode they have chosen to have. Kel and Bruno, in turn, claim to have faced more resistance. The former constituent, by the way, does not seem to keep many contacts with tight relatives. Kel is related, but he had to fight out of respect.

“My mother is more reluctant, but it respects me a lot. […] Sometimes we do a family lunch and the like, it is always with us. And let’s go to his house, they [namorados] Go there, go to Saturday, she lunchs for us, I’m always there with us. But even so, it is even more reluctant. Only she respects me, “he reported.

The future: “The law does not support us”

Since the family already includes two children, pregnancy is not something they plan for the future. Perhaps, in the coming months, Jennifer will also live at home to maceteulate, but it is a process that should work naturally, that is, organic and without pressure. A possible will, perhaps, is, in the future that distinguishes or close to the union.

“As far as I know, the law does not allow us to have stable union; they do not recognize this family model, which is given as polygamy,” said Bruno.

According to the Brazilian law, “polygamy is prohibited and is provided in the criminal code in article 235, which includes the sanction for cases of bigamia”. Popularly, those who are married and contract the marriage with another, consequently, commit crime of Bigamia. The practice is subject to punishment with a penalty of up to six years of prison.

However, Kel is considering an alternative solution: “Perhaps a small and intimate ceremony, but all in his time”. In the meantime, the Macetti family Continue to organize your days with tables, affection and very respect. Stimulating conventions, but also inspiring new ways of living love.

Source: Terra

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