The American psychotherapist Clay Cockrell says that Super Rich has difficulties with relationships and the idea that they never have enough.
Since it has specialized in the treatment of millionaire patients, the American psychotherapist Clay Cockrell claims to have stopped trying to become rich.
“I stopped playing the lottery. I understood the dangers of having everything too much.”
Cockrell, who has a therapy clinic in New York, says that he tries to help his customers manage what he calls him “toxic effect of abundance”: the idea of never having enough.
“That idea that” when I have $ 10 million, I will be safe “. And then you reach $ 10 million and realize that, in fact, it needs $ 50 million.
“[Esse comportamento] It has a certain degree of dependence. Because the $ 50 million will not be sufficient, and then I will need $ 100 million, $ 250 million “.”
One of the angles of therapy, so it is to help patients identify purposes that go beyond the accumulation of money.
“If happiness is not in a figure, where is it? And from this we start experimenting. Are you in philanthropy? Is it in relationships? He is building something new, from scratch? Having an ambition is great, but since analyzed and aligned with one because.”
Cockrell specializes in the participation of Super Rich by chance, after a very high income patient liked his style: the therapist takes his sessions during the walk in the park, instead of inside an office and indicated it to other people in this circle.
And the same therapist was surprised by the problems brought by wealth, even by those who are despising the “problems of the first world”.
“Like many people, I believed that the money has solved the problems. Something some, but not everyone. Many of my customers say that the previous therapists have listened to their complaints and replied:” You should not treat things as if to park your yacht or how to resolve the legacy of your children “. But I have always believed in an approach to understanding and acceptance, to find out that their problems are legitimate,” he said.
“It may not be the same problems as mine, but now I know that money is an accomplice factor in people’s lives.”
This, underlines Cockrell, is the experience of a small part of the global population.
For the most part, issues related to scarcity – not abundance – money is complicating factors.
An example: a survey of the British Psychotherapy Association stressed that almost all (94%) therapists in the country identified that the mental health of their patients had worsened due to financial concerns and highly corprad content.
Experts explain that the mental overload of making money “yield” by the end of the month affects our decision -making process and cognitive performance.
Relationship difficulties
Again in super rich, Cockrell makes the warning that he knows so many unhappy because his champion is, of course, distorted: “People don’t look for therapist when they are happy”.
But he underlines that “the people I attend are those in which the money complicated their lives and brought some negativity, (…) lack of empathy, lack of ability to understand who has not achieved the same level of success”.
In the same line, he says that Super Rich ends up developing difficulties in the family, tend to disconnect from the real world and try many suspicions for people who approach them.
“The rich usually interact only with those who can understand them. This is very common. And what happens is that they become very, very isolated and suspicious of new people,” he says.
“Is the fear that you are entering my life just for what I can do for you? Because of my status of celebrity or my wealth?”. Perhaps paranoia is a strong word, but there is a lot of suspicion – and this prevents the formation of new relationships. “
The life of the heir
And spending childhood and adolescence in a rich family also brings his challenges.
“Parents often want to save their children from the difficulties they have faced and give them an easier life. This is normal. But you must understand that overcoming the difficulties was what made you as it is,” says the therapist.
“Also, when your son or adolescent child expose this world of private jets, wonderful restaurants and holidays in surprising places, when he is 21 he will have the feeling of” I saw everything, I tasted everything “and he will feel bored. And then he will start testing drugs or at risk behaviors, to feel adrenaline. Just to have something new”.
Cockrell also observes that children of super rich people suffer from “enormous pressure to do better than their parents”, in particular those who follow the same career as the parents, as a celebrity in the world of entertainment, called pjortately called Nepobabies.
“It is a great pressure, which contrasts with [a ideia de] Going to his own way, discovering his passions and having the right to do and fail. On the other hand, many also suffer from the lack of ambition. “Why will I frequent college or start my business?” Having so much wealth can be depressing, whether you are no longer a purpose or because you are always under pressure to do better than your parents. “
Charm with super ric
By the way, Clay Cockrell has gained more importance in recent years only by writing about the parallels of his practice with the series Succession (2018-2023), which shows the disputes of a multimilionary family to control the conglomerate of the media created by the patriarch.
“The series is very correct” interpreting the “toxic effect of excess” on multimilionaries, despite the dramatic licenses, Cockrell currencies.
Part of the success of Succession It is due to the fact that the super rich are often awakening from the charm to contempt, depending on the interlocutor.
The billionaires have become idols, have obtained a huge political influence and have, for some, the status of visionaries and innovators. But for others, they have become symbols of a global tax system considered unfair that critics claim to encourage the concentration of income at the expense of the poorest population.
When the billionaire Jeff Bezos organized a sumptuous wedding ceremony in the center of Venice (Italy) in June, for example, he was received with the protesters with posters who complain that “if you have money to rent Venice, you have money to pay more taxes”.
The wedding was finally transferred from the city center.
The British Organization Oxfam estimates that the wealth of the five richest men in the world has doubled since 2020, “while the wealth of five billion people has fallen”. This is what the NGO calls the “crisis of inequality”.
Clay Cockrell says that their Ultrach patients are aware of these different perceptions about them.
“It is something that goes and goes to cycles: there are moments in which the company admires the richest like the people who worked hard, and there are times when it changes and becomes negative feelings, which have gained everything with harmful means. Many of these people are incredibly intelligent, battles and have gained admirable things in their lives. Sometimes they are admired and sometimes vilified.
For “ordinary” people, Cockrell thinks that the greatest learning of his practice is not to believe that becoming a millionaire is the secret of happiness.
“For the rest of us who believe that” if I get that increase, if I work even more, I will be happy “, I will see the people who have everything: they are not happy. And this challenges us to think: so what will bring me happiness and joy? Is that the value is. It is in the family, in the contribution we give to the community.
Source: Terra
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