It’s not as simple as it might seem. The abusive relationship can begin very subtly; comprehend
or abusive relationship it is every relationship that involves physical, psychological, sexual, moral or financial / property abuse. It can happen between couples, family relationships, at work and even between friends. But how to identify an abusive relationship?
It is not as simple as it may seem, because the abusive relationship can start from very subtle way.
Gradually, the abuser undermines autonomy and self-esteem. By isolating the partner from their support network and friends, after all, a person without a support network has a much harder time getting out of this relationship.
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How to recognize an abusive relationship
Try to observe the signs:
- jealous behaviorwho invade privacy and are always suspicious, possessive and in control of everything you do, who you talk to and where you go.
- Isolation: from circles of friendship, family and activities that you enjoy and that are good for you.
- Manipulation and superiority: you feel you are right, but he convinces you that you are wrong. He always blames you. Even if you are mad at him for something he did, you always end up feeling wrong and apologizing.
- Contempt, humiliation and / or belittlement: points out flaws, corrects and humiliates you in front of others, ignores you or is cold when you express your feelings. Everything you do is never good or good enough. He doesn’t say he admires you and makes you feel like shit. (Believe me, you are not that. You did nothing to deserve this.
- aesthetic pressure: with humiliations of the body, confrontations and demands.
- emotional games: the violent person curses you and / or beats you saying that you are causing it. He justifies the humiliation he causes you by saying that he does it because he loves you so much. Note: In a healthy relationship there is no emotional blackmail or aggression, much less justified by feelings.
In the video below, I delve into understanding and identifying an abusive relationship:
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You may wonder how you feel when you are with that person. There is no standard abuse profile.
There are classic profiles such as a very sexist manbut there are also those people with very sweet and deconstructed personalityand this can be abusive.
Notice how you are treated and respected. It is from the dialogue, the behavior that this person has towards you and how you feel about them, that it will be possible to answer the question.
Ask yourself:
- Does this relationship make me feel humiliated?
- Do I feel limited, belittled or scared?
- Did any relationship, whether with family or friends, have to be broken off?
- Do I feel obligated to give satisfaction about who I speak to and where I am?
- Have I ever had to demonstrate my responses out of distrust of the other person?
- Did I ever have to provide my passwords?
- Does this relationship make me question my sanity and / or my ability to do something?
- Am I afraid to express myself and / or do I feel silenced when I try to say something?
- Do I always feel guilty, wrong and end up apologizing for what I didn’t do?
- I never seem to get compliments, but do I get subtle criticisms and comments about some alleged flaw or indifference?
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How to get out of an abusive relationship?
The first step is to choose a person to talk to. It can be a friend, a therapist, or even a stranger who gives you confidence. The moment you talk about it, you can listen to yourself and begin to better understand what you are experiencing, then build the courage and support to get out of that situation.
Another step is the Strengthening of the victim. This can be done in therapy or in the support network, but it is important to remember that while abused, the person isolates himself from friends and support network, from pleasure activities and from his life plans.
The less she does things you enjoy outside of the relationship, the more power the abuser has over her. The person is totally immersed in the bubble of that relationship. Here’s how to overcome a love trauma.
Therapy is very important to get out of an abusive relationship and also to help deal with the subsequent fear of building a new relationship.
You can work convictions (see here) that may have developed before, during and after the relationship. For instance:
- “I have a rotten finger”
- “a healthy relationship is not for me”
- “The problem is me” Working with the guilt and shame of being in that situation is another point of therapy, which will encourage and support the victim to resume and create projects, make contact with friends and find paths for their own capacity and potential. .
REPORT IT!
CALL 180
THE Women’s service center it offers qualified listening and hospitality to women in situations of violence. The service records and forwards reports of violence against women to the competent bodies.
or the service also provides information on women’s rights, such as the nearest and most appropriate places of care for each case.
The call is free and the service is available 24 hours a day., Every day of the week. The Ligue 180 serves the entire national territory and is also accessible in other countries.
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Luisa Restelli (luisarestelli.psi@gmail.com)
– Psychologist, Body Psychotherapist and Systemic Family Constellator. He conducts individual and couples counseling in RJ and online and lectures and therapy groups.
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