The year has just begun and emotional fluctuations are already taking over your mind, straining your thoughts, draining your strength and spirit, causing your personal plans and dreams to remain on the sidelines? Perhaps, emotional dependency is the big bad behind your suffering. And to lighten this energy, find out how […]
The year has just begun and emotional fluctuations are already taking over your mind, straining your thoughts, draining your strength and spirit, causing your personal plans and dreams to remain on the sidelines? Perhaps, emotional dependency is the big bad behind your suffering. And to ease this energy, find out how tarot cards can help.
What is Emotional Dependency?
To give a lighter view of this topic, I reproduce here an excerpt from a song by Banda Ira with the singer Pitty, which you may have already heard and which expresses very well the anguish that comes from love addiction: “- My life, I have to change every day. To escape, from the routine of my desires for your kisses. And my dreams I try to wake up and chase my dreams. But the reality that comes after is not quite what I had planned.”. This song expresses one of the great realities of those who live love addiction: always expect more from yourself, but project it onto the other.
Be it love, family, professional or social relationships. The big question is that love addiction it is a prison based on a set of dysfunctional behaviors that do not contribute to relationship health, much less mental and emotional health, as well as, of course, negatively impacting your independence. Thus, the importance of pursuing self-knowledge, understanding how one works and why, as well as confronting current achievements. This gives you more clarity to shape new habits in pursuit of the life you want to achieve.
the complicated dynamics
We are beings programmed by neural pathways engraved in our brain since childhood, according to the experiences we live, which are also directly related to the triggering of biochemical reactions in our body, through hormones. This allows us to form a personal vision of what life is and how it should be lived.
It’s tricky to explain an origin for the behavior of love addictionbecause everyone has their own story. Therefore, turning your attention to these early stages of ego formation and discovery, such as childhood and adolescence, will allow you to clearly understand the habits that place you in this prison and how they are shaping your life. Some of the most common are: not knowing what to do with one’s time, focusing too much on others who want to anticipate their needs, constantly abandoning one’s routine, like an obsession; not being clear about what you want and need; trying to prove you’re good enough to be loved by doing fancy things to please; lack of clarity in your personal boundaries; vacillation between too much need or too much independence; denial of reality by pretending the problem isn’t happening; act in manipulation, among many other ways.
However, some of the dynamics that contribute to the formation of addictive behavior are: children who have been forced to pretend not to feel what they felt, i.e. they were not accepted; need to please to feel belonging, loved; children who have been forced out of work and who have been placed to compensate for some imbalance in the family; they were seen as more mature than their biological age and able to fend for themselves – as well as dynamics of physical, emotional and psychological abuse, abandonment, abandonment and addiction issues.
Tarot help for emotional addiction
In the quest to get out of this prison of dlove addiction, we need to focus on what we do on a daily basis: analyzing and mapping behaviors that are currently harmful, i.e. living more fully what we do. We have to create new possibilities, habits, challenging the brain through simple exercises such as living with more attention and concentration.
And it is here that the tarot can also help you, as its cards are divided into two large groups: the major arcana with 22 cards that indicate the stage of the spiritual lesson, the complex concept of your personal journey, which lies behind a situation , which can provide a clear understanding of the formation or root of the situation you are experiencing. And the arcana with 56 cards that mirror the behavior you have and can work on, learned for the best use of this spiritual lesson. Free yourself from the dynamics of love addiction it is a job that can be very time consuming, as clearly seeing and mapping behaviors and starting to learn requires in-depth analysis, as this habit branches out to other areas of our lives, assuming a unique dynamic. For this reason, the tarot still preserves the subdivision of the group of minor arcana which connect, in seeds, the aspects of human life, such as the material (the diamonds), mental (the swords), sentimental (the cups) and spiritual (the rods), facilitating even more the details and clarity of the behavior that makes us unique and on which we need to work.
Text: Felipe Bezerra is a tarologist, astrologer and holistic therapist at Origin Therapias.
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