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This December I decided to attend fewer events and be present where there was truly a consistent relationship throughout the year

December has arrived and with it the holidays that are multiplying exponentially. From Monday to Monday there are dinners, lunches and events that transform even breakfast into a special event. Impeccable decorations, desired gifts and a contagious festive atmosphere. In just one day I counted five unmissable invitations, each with an attraction that I would really like to participate in. But something bothers me on most of these occasions. I explain. I am invited to meetings with people I have not seen during the year, with whom I have had no relationship, neither personal nor professional. They call me like a piece on a chessboard, but unlike the game, I often feel useless.

Invitations most often arrive via WhatsApp or email, almost never via a personal call. They often come from people or brands I haven’t had the opportunity to connect with yet. On some occasions I end up asking, driven by curiosity and the real interest of an interaction, the reason for the invitation. The interlocutor gets scared, withdraws, it’s not his job to know, it was all departmentalized.

“Ah, Alice, but it could be the start of a relationship, right?”, they tell me. I thought so too and tried to give him a chance. But in practice these events are places where presence is counted, but not valued.

The other day I saw a moving testimony from Marilia Gabriela in the program Astrid Fontenelle. She talked about how, throughout her career, she was invited to all kinds of events and interviewed so many people that the “social” felt like a real relationship. Today, however, she recognizes that this experience did not build the relationships that now nourish her emotionally. This process of social distraction led her to a kind of loneliness. I’m a fan of Marília Gabriela. Your intelligence and clarity inspire me and I want to learn from your experience.

So, this December, I decided to attend fewer events and be present where there was truly a consistent relationship throughout the year. I exercised this freedom to choose where to go and reciprocate the affection received during the year to the professional partners who stood by me and gave me the joy of being with them.

I felt pressured and misunderstood for trying something new, but that’s life. I know that I am solely responsible for my time and how I will build my relationships for the future. In 2025, I want more in-person meetings throughout the year and more conversations on the phone. I am closed to meaningless presences, but open to relationships that nourish the present and the future. As we know just from living, I hope to be back here soon to tell you what this experiment was like.

Source: Terra

Rose

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