MusicNick Cave advises fan who left show early because he remembered breaking up: ‘It’s a ritual’Fan left Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds’ performance after hearing ‘Into My Arms’By Editorial Staff

Nick Cave responded to a man who told him about his experience at a show with the Bad Seeds. The musician maintains a kind of blog, The Red Hand Filesin which he receives messages from fans, and selected one about heartbreak to give advice.

“I used to play ‘Into My Arms’ for my girlfriend,” wrote a fan, mentioning one of the band’s hits. Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds. “I went to your show in Birmingham but had to leave early. It was too emotional for me and reminded me of the amazing times I had with my girlfriend that I know I will never get back.”

Basementthen reflected: “Live music is a ritual that awakens a common emotional response to which we link our individual experiences. When I’m on stage, I get to see these unique and particular feelings reflected in each face. That’s one of the great privileges of being a vocalist, and that’s why I spend so much time in front of an audience. I love watching the emotions on people’s faces — joy, sadness, desire, laughter, fear, anger.”

“The show becomes powerfully and empathetically reciprocal as we experience the therapeutic nature of music together. As the show unfolds, a movement of exchange and kindness emerges, driven by our mutual respect, and healing begins,” he continued.

“A live show can overwhelm you, even seem frightening, because its emotional power can suddenly bring out the deepest experiences in us. But feelings are there to be felt — that’s what they’re for,” he pointed out. Basement. “We heal by acknowledging our emotions and we test our heart’s resilience by staying with what feels unbearable.”

Music can help us in this process. We discovered that our hearts are much stronger than we imagined and that what we thought was unbearable was actually not. Music evokes these subterranean feelings and, at the same time, rescues us from them.

The artist completed his response by saying: “I’m glad you went to the show in Birmingham, Stellanbut I think it was a missed opportunity to ‘get out early’ from a feeling before it ran its course and fulfilled its reparative role. I understand that it must be painful to feel like these ‘amazing moments’ are in the past, but they aren’t — there are many more to come. There will also be new disappointments, but hearts will break stronger.”