Gabi Conti is a writer, presenter and author whose articles can be seen in many popular glossy magazines. Gabi was as enthusiastic about dating as she was about her career – she decided to definitely find it before she was 29 and spent a lot of time on it, installing every possible dating app from Tinder to Bumble.
Now Gabi is a real dating expert and she is ready to share her experience. Here’s what Conti says he learned after spending 10,000 hours meeting men.
1. There will always be obstacles in a relationship.
It’s a common thing, not a clue from fate that you better look for another guy. Just think together if you are able to face the difficulties or if you prefer to give up the fight. If you decide to fight for a relationship, make sure you put the same effort into creating and maintaining it, otherwise nothing will work.
2. Don’t ignore red flags
Did he lie about something? He kept silent that he is still not divorced? Disappeared for a few days then started replying to your messages like nothing happened? Don’t make excuses for a man and don’t try to fix him. Better to ask yourself: am I ready to endure all this all the time? No? Then delete his number and ban him from all social networks.
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3. You can’t please everyone.
Just accept that fact and don’t try to figure out why someone disappeared from your life after the first date.
4. Sometimes you have to break the mold
If you choose the same men all the time and all your relationships end in a broken heart, it might be worth stopping and thinking about what you need to change in yourself to stop this.
5. Trust your intuition
You need someone who will make your life easier, not harder. If with a man you always feel like you are walking on a thin layer of ice that could crack at any moment, you may need to break off relations with this person.
6. You shouldn’t cry for him.
Have you heard the saying, “No guy is worth your tears, and the guy who is will never make you cry”? Gaby thinks it’s true. The partner should help to deal with the problems and not be the cause of them.
7. Leave if the relationship is hurting you.
As soon as you understand it! Yes, separation is difficult, but the more you pull, the worse it will be for you later.
8. Some men are great friends but bad lovers.
It happens. Look at your relationship objectively – sometimes you shouldn’t expect you to be a good couple just because you’re good friends.
9. Don’t try to turn the first person you meet into a boyfriend.
There are apps designed to find a partner for sex – don’t expect more from them. If a man immediately says he doesn’t want a serious relationship, don’t think you can change his mood – just take his position for granted.
10. Dating can be a lot of fun, not just in your twenties.
The older you are, the better you know what you want and what are your boundaries that no one has the right to violate. Don’t forget that it’s a privilege that doesn’t ruin dates, it makes them so much better!
Read also: Take a first step! 10 women on how to ask a man out on a date
Source: The Voice Mag

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