The world of celebrities is full of couples who break up and start dating again, like Maiara and Fernando; understand why we maintain relationships like this
Behavior appears to be enough common among the famous, but among us, you probably have a friend who in one week said they didn’t want to see their boyfriend or girlfriend or painted gold and, the next week, is already posting a couple photo again – if not you are this person. Yo-yo relationships are everywhere and Freud can help explain this.
This is so true that, for example, the sertaneja Maiaraof the duo with Maraisa, e Fernando Zor, Sorocaba’s duo, ended their relationship once again. The news is not surprising for the end itself, but for the number of times it has happened: from what we know, there are already around 10 comings and goings since the couple began their romance in 2019.
Also this Friday, 1st, the information of the columnist Fábia Oliveira indicates that another famous couple has also broken up: the footballer gabigolo and the business woman Raffaella Santossister of Neymar.
The relationship started in 2015 and has been through two public terms. The “separate and return” is so much that, according to the editorialist, friends have nicknamed the two “Maiara and Fernando Zor”.
Rafaella’s brother Neymar also lived in a yo-yo relationship. In six years, he and actress Bruna Marquezine have gone through four terms.
Why insist on a yo-yo relationship?
Common in the lives of famous and anonymous alike, the “put on, take off” of relationships is easily explained by Freud. Indeed, experts see emotional immaturity as one of the drivers of this behavior.
“People have several chronological years, but psychologically speaking they behave like teenagers. Emotional immaturity leads to emotional instability. Psychologist Zenir Pascutti.
Insecurity also interferes with relationship management, according to clinical psychologist Matheus Corrêa Rabelo. Whether it’s the fear of being alone or the idea of not being able to find another meaningful relationship, people living in a yo-yo relationship often face a lot of internal conflicts.
“They can be insecure people, little attached to their feelings and rigid on their ideals of relationship, and for this reason they see in the relationship the support that they lack internally; they attribute to the other their own emotional conflicts. Another in his individuality, like another person who also has his own needs, characteristics and difficulties “, explains Rabelo.
How do you know when it’s time to move on?
In the opinion of the experts consulted by Land, it is essential that a relationship is first of all healthy and a source of joy, not a worry. Psychologist Pedro Paulo Dias, a specialist in psychoanalytic studies at the Federal University of Minas Gerais (UFMG), draws attention to what he calls “the eroticization of suffering”, a behavior that has gained space in our society.
“When you are in love, colors and sounds also take on new meanings. This is the power of love. It is a mistake to think that there must be suffering,” she says.
This understanding also helps you understand when it’s time to move on and give up on the relationship that has already shown you to fail. Since nothing ends overnight, the relationship usually shows signs that it is drawing to a close.
“Perhaps betrayal is the most common sign. But lack of respect, lack of interest or concern for the other … When all this happens, it is a sign that the relationship could end”, explains psychologist Zenir Pascutti.
Psychologist Matheus Rabelo also cites other signs: “If the relationship deprives one or both parties of developing; if there are routine conflicts of the same nature in which no solution can be found; if there is no room for individualities; if dialogue becomes less and less present; if there is a feeling of stagnation. These may be some signs that the relationship is not progressing in a healthy way “.
The other is not always the problem
But the signs aren’t always in the other person. It is necessary to observe how you behave towards the other, for example, when you lack patience or tolerance. In this case, self-knowledge is the key to letting go of a relationship that isn’t going well.
“If the relationship asks too much of you, it’s time to ask yourself if it still makes sense,” sums up psychologist Pedro Paulo Dias.
Experts also agree that sometimes professional support can help you recognize your limitations. Rabelo reiterates: “If you recognize yourself living something similar and you have difficulty moving forward, it is important to seek help”.
* With editing by Estela Marques.
Source: Terra
Camila Luna is a writer at Gossipify, where she covers the latest movies and television series. With a passion for all things entertainment, Camila brings her unique perspective to her writing and offers readers an inside look at the industry. Camila is a graduate from the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) with a degree in English and is also a avid movie watcher.
