The actress of “Salve Jorge”, on TV Globo, explained to Estadão how she found out she was in an abusive relationship and suggested a solution to avoid toxic relationships
Laryssa Dias lived in an abusive relationship while filming the soap opera Save Jorgefrom TV Globebroadcast between 2012 and 2013, of which she became a victim Domestic violence. In a moving tale by Estadio, said the toxic relationship affected her work and to this day she did not know how she managed to finish the plot, which required “a lot of attention”. Her goal with the interview was to have a greater reach to “help other people” in similar situations.
“I was in a very pleasant moment of work, conquests and all, because I was filming my first teledramaturgy. But, in the relationship, I felt movements of competition and envy for who my partner and ally should be,” says Laryssa .
The comment concerns a man she met through mutual friends and who would be her first serious boyfriend. Without a family history of domestic violence, that is physicist or psychologicaland with loving parents, Laryssa found herself the victim of a manipulative, lying and aggressive person for about a year and a half back and forth.
the beginning of the relationship
At the beginning of the relationship, everything was wonderful, she says. At 39, when she looks back, the actress recognizes some of them signs of abuse, right at the beginning of the relationship. However, at the height of his 28 years, he did not understand, which, according to the artist, was due to the lack of love for oneselfconfidence, self-knowledge and awareness.
“When I look today at that Laryssa, that relationship and that situation that has been going on for almost 10 years, I can clearly see that there were several signs of abuse. The beginning of the relationship.
Gradually, her partner exhibited obsessive and abusive behaviors. Among other signs, Laryssa realized that she was her fault even when she was wrong. The artist highlighted a specific and simple story in which he tried to exert control over her.
One day, Laryssa heard the intercom in the apartment ring, but her partner swore he heard wrong. The actress went into the shower wondering if this had happened and she called a longtime friend to talk about the situation. “Dude, I’m not crazy. I know what I heard”, the artist confided at that moment.
Physical aggression and end of the relationship
In addition to insults and manipulations, silence has also become a form of punishment. In the interview with Zoom it was possible to see that the memory of her partner’s disappearance and the agony of that time still anguished Laryssa. A feeling that almost resurfaces as she slowly recreates the events of 10 years ago. “I don’t know if she is self-defense,” she thinks about the difficulty of remembering.
As the actress recalls, it comes to the end point of a relationship disapproved of by family and friends: the moment of Physical aggression in the car. In a very worn courtship, the two took the elevator down to the garage of the building where they were. Before leaving the apartment, they got into the vehicle and quarreled over a reason they don’t remember. “We’ve had worse fights than that,” she points out.
At one point, your partner used both hands hang her for a few seconds on the bench. The actress, nowadays, interprets her attitude as an attempt to scare and frighten her. One of her goals would be to get her to stop questioning him.
Then the boy got out of the car, got on his bike and left. Alone, she was shocked at what had happened. “I didn’t want to believe it too,” remembers the moving actress, before talking about the shame and guilt she felt. For a long time, her feelings prevented her from telling anyone about the danger she had been through. At the time, she thought the assault was “no big deal”.
His former partner tried to contact him after the incident, but the artist blocked him on all platforms and never returned his calls. Also in the interview, Laryssa reiterated why she told her story Estadio. “I think about Laryssa from 10 years ago and what it would be like if I heard an actress, columnist, influencer talking about it. It would be important,” she said.
“My God, how am I allowed this?”
THE violence against women and the femicide these are themes that are still very present in Brazil. According to data from the Security Observatory Network, in 2021 the general numbers revealed a small increase of 8% of cases compared to 2020. The investigation also recorded a case of femicide every 12 hours last year.
Afflicted by this reality and the news she sees from Brazil, Laryssa was part of the statistics on violence against women between 2012 and 2013. Today she avoids clinging to the past and tries to highlight the lessons learned from the experience. Since then, she has learned to set boundaries and recognize signs of abuse in a relationship. “We feel so empowered and in control of ourselves when we say ‘no’,” says the actress, who sought professional helpfamily, spiritual and friendships to get through dating and love yourself.
The solution to get out of abusive relationships, for her, follows this path: build trust, create love for oneself, say “no” and seek self-knowledge. This step by step is necessary to understand which emotional bond makes sense.
“The more you take possession of who you are, like who you are, take care of yourself and learn to look at yourself and respect yourself, the less you will hurt yourself, the less you will allow yourself, the less time you will remain in a relationship like this.”, He concludes.
However, Laryssa assured that she still knows and associates with violent people. The important thing now, however, was to learn to perceive, defend, love and understand when a relationship must end. This, she says, is what she wants for all people in similar situations.
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Camila Luna is a writer at Gossipify, where she covers the latest movies and television series. With a passion for all things entertainment, Camila brings her unique perspective to her writing and offers readers an inside look at the industry. Camila is a graduate from the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) with a degree in English and is also a avid movie watcher.
