Vlad Sokolovsky: “Children twist ropes out of me”

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Vlad, you are a happy father – your daughter is now 5 years old, your son is about to turn a year old. Is there a difference in raising a boy and a girl?

I am sure that girls are born in order to reveal all their tender potentials in their fathers. I experienced it to the fullest. When Mia appeared with us, I did not even imagine that I would treat her with such trepidation. For me, she is a delicate flower that I want to protect from all winds. The boy is a different story. As soon as the son was born, we had a male connection: I twist and turn them, I can bully them somehow kindly … Of course, I don’t communicate with my daughter like that.

Children are called the flowers of life. What do you mean by this concept?

In my understanding, children come into this world to teach adults how to truly live. We grow up, adapt to society, become more closed, use different filters in communicating with people: at work – one, at home – another, with friends – still others. We get entangled in endless scenarios, and only global events bring us back to a conscious state. And the child knows exactly what he wants and does not want. And you also return to this when you start interacting with him – you yourself become a child. This is what makes us alive, returns to us the true sensations of life.

Are you a strict father?

Children make ropes out of me. And I don’t see anything wrong with that. For example, my father raised me very harshly. To receive for any offense was normal practice. But I also grew up not too obedient – I was a hooligan, skipped training, ran away to a neighboring yard where it was impossible, returned after 11 pm, when I was only 7 years old … Parents, of course, called the police, searched, and I came – and my eyes popped -clap. I remember once at school I forged grades in my diary. How did I feel when I found out about this! Probably, this is how I tried to express myself and felt the freedom that was not at home. Perhaps, if it were not for such a tough fist, these issues would be resolved simply at home. Therefore, I would like to build relationships with my children on trust so that they can come to me and share their inner experiences, and not get hung up and decide everything alone.

Do you raise children by books or by intuition?

We, of course, prepared, looked at different systems. But my advice to all parents is don’t follow clear instructions, see what resonates with you personally, watch your children and give them more attention – this is the greatest force in the universe. I do not mean Cerberus, but sincere interest. When we see how a child develops, what he looks at, what he is fond of, then there are much more chances to grow up a wonderful, conscious person. Therefore, if your child painted a wall with gouache at the age of 3, you don’t have to take a belt and beat him for it. Perhaps this is the new Picasso. But we won’t know if the child is traumatized, connects it to the experience, and never draws again.

You are talking about attention. But you have a profession that involves a lot of traveling. How do you find time for children?

I have a rule: when I am with a child, I put down the phone and completely immerse myself in communication. Only then the child receives the energy and love that he should receive simply by the right of his birth. Therefore, with children in this sense, I have no problems. We may not see our daughter for a month, because she flew away with her mother to rest, and then we meet, as we never parted.

Children grow up very quickly. What to do to keep them interesting?

You need to be an internally filled person and constantly develop. After all, what you radiate is what you attract. So I know for sure that I will be an awesome grandfather with all my tattoos, my grandchildren will definitely respect me.

It is very difficult to imagine you as a grandfather – you look young even for a 31-year-old man.

It’s genetics. My mother, for example, is 71 years old. But looking at her, you never know. I admire her – her thoughts, beauty, energy! And my father is still a child at heart! And I want to keep this feeling of childishness in myself for as long as possible. You need to radiate goodness into the world. I think this attitude is also reflected in the appearance.

Since we are talking about appearance, an artist should always look good. How do you take care of yourself?

I can’t say that I’m a big fan of skin care products, but as far as perfume is concerned, I can’t be stopped. I have two shelves of favorite fragrances, mostly selective. It is impossible for another person to understand them. Each fragrance is associated with a certain emotion and energy. So I change them according to my mood. Why this one? Today is just such a day!