This Father’s Day, content creators Tiago and Paulo talk about adopting their children and working on social networks
Tiago Pessoa, actor and content creator, 42, and Paulo Tardivo, 39, who in addition to being an actor and content creator, like her husband, is also a culinary specialist, have success on social media with their profile. Last Pessoa Family ( @familiapessoatardivo). After seven years together, the couple decided it was time to bring some more special people home. This is how, five years ago, siblings Sara and Davi adopted.
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In here BABY’s exclusive testimonialTiago talks about the adoption process and how working on the internet inspires other families.
“We’ve been together for almost 14 years and have always had dreams of being parents. When I was 9, when I was asked what I wanted to be, I said I wanted to be a father. Paulo has already thought about it too and when we met we shared that desire.
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“We never thought about parenting in any way other than adoption.”
With 7 years of marriage, we decided the time was right. When we understood that our relationship was already mature, in a good financial moment, that we already understood each other as a couple, we went to the Forum and started the process.
Sara and Davi are biological siblings and came into our lives at the same time., we both met on the same day. Our process was smooth and lasted about two, two and a half years. Sara’s adaptation phase lasted a little longer, because she was already 5 years old, but Davi was only a baby, she was only three months old. Now, looking from the outside, distancing ourselves from all the sensations we experienced at the time, I see it was a very quick and peaceful adjustment.
We didn’t stand in line long, as our record was large. Our profile was zero to six years old, without many restrictions and I think that’s why we didn’t expect much.
The emotions of the adoption process
We have never been afraid of being a homoaffective couple, of being a double paternity. Here in São Paulo, in the Forum where we carried out the process, we have never suffered any kind of discrimination, it was very serious and egalitarian. At no time did it cross our minds that this could harm or hinder us.
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“During this process you go through different emotions. You have to deal with anxiety, with expectations, you don’t know the length of the queue…”
From the moment you search the Forum, you feel ‘pregnant’, waiting for your child, but you don’t know when it might happen. There are many feelings involved, but the one we always try to share with those in this stage is try to hold back your anxiety and make sure that your son or daughter will be born to you and that it will happen at the right time.
The children’s relationship with our family is great, healthy and full of love! They were highly anticipated. From the very beginning everyone knew, our family and friends, so everyone lived through this wait with us. They were very happy when they arrived..
The work of representativeness in networks
We never planned to go into networks and work on them. It was by accident. TikTok was booming and I created an account in my name to play with Sara, thinking no one would see it. We have no plans to become influencers and work with that, much less involving children. But then the third video went viral and so on. We’ve started getting a lot of messages about adoption and we’ve seen how we represent so many people, how serious it is.
[quote]”We don’t want to be examples, because we are not perfect, but to inspire people to believe in their dreams.”
As a teenager, understanding myself as gay, I thought that fatherhood wouldn’t have been possible, because I didn’t have the reference of a father like me, of a family like the one I have today. So, now, we’re inspiring people to show that it’s possible. We have received a lot of love on the networks and the balance is very positive, we are very happy with this work!
We also received attacks, yes, but we decided to turn all of this into humor, information and love content. These are people who don’t even have a face on the internet, they’re just there to attack. We turn everything into content and work, but we don’t give them a stage. On the street, on the other hand, we never suffer any kind of prejudice and are always approached with great affection and love.
Our main goal is to naturalize our family background. Show it to people our family exists and it’s just like yours, which is on the other sidewith the same perrengues, the same difficulties and the same pleasure of being a family.
Wishing you all a Happy Father’s Day and lots of love!”
Source: Terra
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