Is it possible to forgive betrayal?

Take the learning from the situation and free yourself from the pain or guilt

It is possible to forgive betrayal? To answer this question we need to talk about our choices.

When we do not perform them consciously and in tune with our inner truth, this is reflected externally, in our physical body, in our relationships and in all the situations in which we live.

When we repeatedly make choices unconsciously, these reflexes initially manifest themselves in a more subtle and limited way. They present themselves in the form of minor physical inconveniences and accidents, or in small arguments and disagreements in our daily lives.

When we don’t learn to see and understand the lessons these situations show us, even if they still signal less intensely, they can amplify into serious illnesses, serious losses or accidents, and even emotional betrayals.

Extreme culmination of a long previous process, betrayal in relationships never happens at all. They always indicate an underlying situation, which is the focus of our attention when dealing with betrayal.

A the responsibility never lies exclusively with the “traitor”. He may have been the active agent, but the “betrayed” is also an agent, albeit passively. Learn more here about the pain of betrayal.

When you experience betrayal, it is important that, despite all the pain, you approach the situation consciously. Access the underlying process by searching for your responsibility in it.

The main question is not “Why did the person do this?” or “What did I do wrong?”, but “What does this betrayal show in me? Which of my problems are involved in the situation?“.

Avoid the trap of blaming others or yourself, as this also means denial and escape, only making the situation worse.

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The importance of self-forgiveness

Forgiving a betrayal means, first of all, forgiving yourself: accept your truth and take your learning into the situation. Only then will you be able to see the truth in others and therefore forgive them.

Whether that means there will be reconciliation or not doesn’t matter. Without self-forgivenessthe lesson that the betrayal showed remains unlearned.

The root of betrayal remains unresolved within you, and in the future it will manifest itself again in another unpleasant situation, or even in another betrayal, whether with the same partner or with another.

Once you detect the problem, take responsibility, see and accept the situation as it is. Step out of the role of victim and blame and commit to yourself to effectively see and learn the lesson implicit in the situation.

You can seek therapeutic help and professional guidance. It doesn’t matter which path you choose, but when you make this commitment, implement it in the necessary actions and transformations.

Getting in touch with the root of betrayal within you can be extremely painful. If there has been negligence on these issues so far, it will probably not be easy to address them.

However, no matter how painful the process may be, dive in and break free. Face your lessons instead of masking the pain.

Get to the heart of the main problem and resolve not only this betrayal, but all the situations that preceded it. Free yourself to live a future with new and more pleasant experiences.

See here the meanings of Dreaming about betrayal.

Reflections that help clarify one’s responsibilities and choices

• How do I position myself in the relationship?
• Is my posture aggressive? Or too passive?
• Am I very afraid of losing my partner?
• Do I do everything I can to not give up on the relationship?
• Are there unresolved problems with your partner?
• What behaviors and attitudes of mine contributed to them becoming unresolved?
• What relationship problems have I avoided facing?
• Do I want and am I willing to try to solve them?
• Is your partner ready for a commitment to loyalty?
• Am I willing and have the emotional structure to (re)build this commitment?
• Do I build illusions and expectations based on my dreams and expect my partner to make them come true?

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– Energy Therapist, provides remote consultations via Personare. She is the author of the book Para que o Amor Aconteça, from the Personare Collection.

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