The children are frustrated because they need help, but their mothers want to travel and have a busy social life; Watch the video in which a psychoanalyst explains what the problem looks like in the studio
They say it takes an entire village to raise a child. The African saying makes us reflect on how much energy is needed for the task of raising children. In today’s urban cities, however, the mission often falls to grandmothers, especially when the parents work and the child is sick and can’t go to school, for example. When children want to go out, they also ask their grandmothers to stay with them.
“Now I want to enjoy it, because I like to travel, I like to go out; so I think I’m in my moment of living life. Soon maybe I won’t be able to do many things anymore,” he concludes.
On the sofa
Psychoanalyst Maristela Carvalho, who has experience working with grandparents, reflects: “When a person becomes older, he loses the activities he used to do to complete his day. He begins to have a little more free time. He ends up taking on the role to take care of the grandchildren and leave out the possibility of enjoying this new phase.”
“On the one hand, she thinks she has a lot of time and can help her family, however, she was once a mother and played the role of caring, educating and training. The grandmother’s part should be more focused on being able to have fun, go for walks and not have the responsibility of teaching your grandson everyday things”, adds she, who graduated in psychology from the Lumière Lyon II University, in France.
“It would be important to spend some time with the child and, at other times, dedicate oneself to new activities and pleasures that are acquired little by little at this moment in life”, he summarizes.
According to the psychoanalyst, grandparents must learn to set limits when their routine is strongly altered by the needs of the family. At the same time, he believes, “older people are also discovering themselves in this place; they don’t really know what they like; what their new interest is and who they will interact with… This gap remains and, for the convenience of the situation, not for wickedness, the children ask for help, but things end up going wrong.”
Watch the video below with the specialist, also trained at the Center for Psychoanalytic Studies of São Paulo:
Source: Terra
Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
