Many people say they are happy when they have the opportunity to help someone, take pleasure in realizing that their attitude has made a difference in the other’s life and was responsible for relieving a pain, facilitating a task, bringing comfort, being a shoulder to lean on …
This satisfaction is very natural, because, in reality, the separation between oneself and the other is an illusion: we are all connected and we can feel this benefit that we have done to others resonate within ourselves.
It turns out that when we put ourselves in a position to help someone (as in all moments of life), in addition to the need for it to be done with love, we must employ a good dose of wisdom.
escape from reality
It is not in all cases, but it is also not uncommon that a strong desire to solve the problems of others is a way of not addressing one’s own problems.
This is a two point junction. On the one hand, we learn that it is good to be kind and to help people. On the other hand, it can be very painful to look at certain points of our interior or even difficult to make the changes we need to make for our own good, as this can involve making decisions, changing habits, pushing people away or recognizing that responsibility that the situation is. so it is ours alone.
In this way, even if it doesn’t seem like it, it is much calmer to occupy the mind and the time in supporting the other. As a result, the person will have neither the time nor the energy to look at their challenges and can remain in the so-called comfort zone. Even if this place is not that pleasant, at least it is already known.
weakening of the other
In energetic terms, by constantly recognizing the need for the help of the other, we feed that frequency. In other words, we are empowering, empowering this vibration of lack. Ultimately, we are making the person weaker.
It is as if our vibration is saying, “I know you will not make it, that you are not capable, this is not for you” and the person receives this message, being influenced by it and seeing their personal power less and less.
As already mentioned, the idea is not to stop helping people, but to use wisdom to make decisions and position yourself in this process. In this case, some examples of how to do this could be praise, acknowledging the progress the person has already made and encouraging her to continue, being companionship while taking the necessary actions (instead of doing it for her), and pointing out ways for her to seek solutions for herself. itself.
opportunity thief
Another point involved in the question of wanting to solve other people’s problems is that good intentions can get in the way.
It’s that famous story where, when they realized the effort the butterfly was making to get out of the cocoon, they decided to give a little help and cut the envelope with scissors.
The butterfly remained with weak wings and never managed to fly. This has hindered the maximum expression of their butterfly nature, as well as making it difficult for them to feed, escape threats and predators, and find a mate for reproduction.
With humans, the exercise is the same. It is worth reflecting on the fact that perhaps that difficult situation represents a great opportunity for the development of that person’s energetic, mental, emotional and spiritual musculature.
It’s not like it’s nice to suffer or appreciate unpleasant moments. The proposal is to make a reading of the situations, recognizing the possibilities of growth, ours and that of others.
needy and dear
Being the one who always helps can be a way for a person to feel special. She puts herself in the position of being the support for someone who needs something in that moment and therefore she is the dear one.
It feeds the ego, giving an idea of ​​being important, something like “ah, if it weren’t for me …”. It is as if he uses the emptiness of the other to fill his own emptiness, since from the questions of others he finds meaning for his own life.
This relationship is unhealthy, as it is based on addictions: the needy needs the loved one and the loved one needs the need of the needy. And the people involved feed on this cycle, keeping each other locked in.
It gets heavy
Whatever the reason, people with a more refined sensitivity and a desire to help end up constantly dragging the problems of others around and this whole process becomes very heavy and can lead to diseases of the body and soul.
Therefore, the first step to being able to effectively help others is to help ourselves first.
Treat our processes with love and affection, welcome ourselves, have the courage to face our little brats, make the necessary changes and accept what we have rejected about ourselves.
As everything is energy and is transmitted through the frequencies, by doing this inner work, we develop the helping vibration in ourselves and, therefore, we will have this balanced and quality energy to offer to other people.
help with the heart
And you might ask, “I understand everything! But how do I know if I should help or if I am not falling into any of the” traps “mentioned here?”
The secret is in respect, which is the “breast response”. It is your heart, your connection with yourself that will indicate the best path, the best attitude, the time to act and the time to wait for the butterfly to come out of the cocoon. Respecting the chest is having wisdom!
The accompaniment of a spiritual-energetic therapist greatly supports this process of meeting you, learning to listen to your heart and being able to do what needs to be done while respecting your truth.
Text: Bia Albuquerque (@biatherapist), spiritual-energetic therapist, human therapist, spiritualist psychoanalyst, facilitator of the Circle of Life and reader of therapeutic cards
Source: Terra
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