In an interview with CARAS Brasil, psychologist Letícia de Oliveira analyzes Marieta Severo’s reflection on grief after the death of her husband Aderbal Freire-Filho
A few years ago, Marieta Severo (78) experienced the pain of burying her husband, the theater director Aderbal Freire-Filho. He died at the age of 82, in August 2023, following complications from a stroke suffered in 2020. Recently, the actress reflected on her husband’s illness and grief, to Jornal O Globo. In an interview with CARAS Brazilthe psychologist Letícia de Oliveira analyzes the case. “Space to reconnect”underlines.
Before his death, Aberbal fell ill due to a stroke and the family faced health problems. “The last three years were painful. When Aderbal came out of the hospital, I set up a mini-hospital here at home. He did physiotherapy, he recovered, then came other episodes and two difficult years until his loss”the artist said.
“I have recovered the good memory, the good company. I lie down and it is as if I were holding his hand. Aderbal made the difference in my life. The famous mature love, a privilege”, continued Marieta, who receives affection from family and friends. “I want to reconstitute myself. I do it with my family. I also traveled wherever we came from. I didn’t want this thing of regretting. I went to the same restaurants, visited exhibitions, watched plays and operas. I wanted to turn that key. I like to think of him with pleasure and lots of love”modified.
Now, the eternal Dona Nenê of The Big Family You can’t imagine experiencing a new love. “I’m completely widowed. I can’t imagine another person in my life and I don’t want this either. I’m still satisfied with myself and all these memories”declared the veteran.
PHASES OF PAIN
The psychologist explains that pain goes through certain stages. “That of denial, when we lose the person and do not accept them, we do not want to accept them due to anger, lack of faith, feeling of being offended, of no longer believing, perhaps, in God, bargaining when we try in any way to get back what we had , we ask, we implore, we want to feel, at least a little, what we felt next to the person”speaks.
“Depression, when we lose the taste for things, life becomes colourless; and acceptance, which is the final phase, that is when we manage to put that pain, with all those beautiful memories, in an uncomfortable little place, but this it doesn’t make us uncomfortable every day”, Letícia continues.
Then analyze the actress’s case. “And from what Marieta said, he (her husband) was a great partner, a person who spent his life with her, he wasn’t just a husband, and she has countless memories with him. We have a habit of wanting replace, and says she is coping very well with the process of becoming a widow,” highlights.
“I think when we fill the hole, we replace it, we stop feeling the pain – and it’s not that we have to experience the pain, but we don’t effectively process what we need to process. And from what she reported, she’s making peace with herself She is using this emptiness, this space of pain to reconnect with herself and then go through the process of accepting this pain.concludes the specialist.
Source: Terra
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