How to talk to the teenage children of the pornography on the Internet

The digital era has brought unique challenges to modern parenting. Among these, one of the most delicate is like talking to the teenage children of internet pornography. After all, today’s young people have Almost unlimited access to adult content via connected devices.

👉 Understand the relationship between sexual dysfunction and the effects of pornography addiction

Talk about pornography With adolescents it does not mean promoting or normalizing their consumption, but offering tools to critically understand what they see and develop realistic expectations on relationships e sexuality.

However, before finding the right tone, the most productive paths and the most reliable theoretical bases to talk to the teenagers of risks and dependence on pornography, we need Understand the “enemy”.

Yes, as in a plot of superheroes, knowing the villain is essential before facing the battle. And in this case, the “bad” has superpowers: it acts in silence, it is omnipresent and masks it as harmless entertainment.

This bad guy is the Digital pornographyWith its logic that addresses, its easy access and its profound effects on the immature brain and in the adolescent development phase.

Summary of the article:

• Pornography in the twentieth and 21st century;
• the importance of masturbation;
• How a natural habit becomes an addiction;
• Reflexes in future sex life;
• How to talk to your children.

First: what was pornography in the twentieth century?

Before tightening the PlayIt is worth making a “in the previous episode of Human behavior …“If you grew up before the age of the smartphone, you could remember how difficult it was to find content for adults.

Hidden magazines against the background of some drawers, delivered at hand, films codified on cable TV … all this has created a “mystery” around sex and desire.

Pornography was poor, almost ritualistic and request, which limited its consumption.

Now: Welcome to streaming pleasure

Today access is infinite. Literally. Any teenager with a mobile phone and Internet access is bombed in a few seconds for millions of videos with the most diverse types of practices, patterns and sexual fetishes. A “Netflix sex”, but without indicative classification, without supervision and without brakes.

This is the reality of a generation created in the universe of the series Euphoria (Max), where teenage dramas mix with a Massive consumption of images, dopamine and emotional disconnection.

What do we have then?

• Ease of access.
• Content generated by adults (experience x immaturity).
• Absence of censorship.
• Availability for young people with little or no sex experience.
• Immense variety of stimuli (types, people, practices, fetish).

Let’s talk about taboo without taboo

Masturbation It is not the problem. In fact, it is an important ally in the car -conclusion process, especially in adolescence.

This impulse, this propensity for masturbation is natural. Freud called “Drive”, Plato, “Eros” and, well, today we call “Hory”.

The point is that masturbation is part of the sexual and emotional maturity. Therefore, it helps the young man to explore his body and understand his sensations, first and together to contact with the other person.

But what happens when this natural practice is mediated by artificial, extreme and out of control stimuli?

What transforms a natural habit into an addiction?

The answer is in neurochemistry. Think about the brain as the operating system of a computer. When everything works well, it manages pleasure, motivation, concentration, humor.

However, if exposed, in a continuous and early way, to a highly stimulating pornographic content, this “system” enters an accident.

The combination of masturbation with excess stimuli causes natural sexual impulse – that is, the cornea – be overcome by the chemical reaction generated by the brain when it is overrated.

Pornography generates one Intense dopamine exhaustthe neurotransmitter of pleasure. And, as the uncle Ben said to Peter Parker (Spider-Man), “with great powers are great responsibilities”.

The problem is that, over time, the brain gets used to these peaks. So, like any dependence, it needs multiple stimuli to experience the same pleasure.

The logic of addiction: dopamine overdose

The excessive stimulus (prizes) generates an exaggerated dopamine production, neurotransmitter related to pleasure, reward, courage, behavior, mood control, etc. This is the hormone released in the bloodstream, responsible for the adjustment of the adrenal glands and the endocrine system.

So it works as in a video game, in which the search for new “phases” keeps your child connected, enamelled, employee. It is the logic of the brain reward system: the stimulus leads to the reward, which leads to more stimulus and, again, reward.

Over time, the brain no longer reacts to the basic stimulus and requires More extreme scenes, more unknown and more bizarre. That is, it is tolerance that requires more to the same result. This is the logic of drug addiction.

Excessive dopamine production compromises the correct functioning of the brain and body. It is as if we were attached.

When pleasure becomes a “fuel”, the teenager stops looking for a healthy sexual stimulus and begins to use pornography as an emotional escape: boredom, anxiety, solitude, lack of meaning, relationship of difficulty with the family. THE Pornography has therefore launched a chemical rodLike any drug.

The brain’s response: stop partial

To try to balance things, the brain defends itself. Blocks dopamine receptors, like an antivirus trying to contain a bug.

The result? Nothing more pleasant. Neither school, no sport, no friend, no real novels. Only pornography offers that momentary restoration.

This explains why teenagers dependent on this type of content have symptoms such as:

• irritability;
• anxiety;
• Lack of concentration;
• insomnia;
• apathy;
• True sexual disinterest;
• insulation;
• depression.

Yes, it seems the description of a dark force that slowly invades the mind of a teenager. Like a vecna in the series Stranger things (Netflix). But in fact, it is only dopamine that behaves without brakes.

And what about future sex life?

The most frightening is that: many of these teenagers have not even started their real sex life. They didn’t really kiss. They have not experienced the human touch. So pornography creates an unreal script, a pleasure model that It does not exist in life outside the screens.

And since real stimuli are more “thin”, the young man feels nothing. It is bored with the touch, with the kiss, with the other person’s body. He does not seek the other while he is trained to react only to hyprostimulation.

The logic of “dopamine or nothing”

Do you know what really dependent? It is not the explicit content itself, but the reward system triggered in the brain.

It all starts with a choice that at the beginning seems harmless, taken under the illusion of control. However, it quickly leads to a vicious circle of dependence and cars -overview.

A teenager dependent on pornography no longer seeks pleasure, but relief from abstinence. It is like a chemistry employee. And this is not a metaphor.

A worrying fact

A Research published in the magazine Archives of Sexual Behaviour revealed that married Americans who consumed pornography did it more than double the probability of divorcing Compared to those who have not consumed. This happened even when other factors were considered, such as marital and sexual satisfaction.

These results highlight the destructive potential that the poorly managed habit can have in stable relationships, including adults who theoretically would have more discernments to manage these situations.

Imagine then, The impact on the mind of a teenager?

After all, how to talk about the internet porn with teenage children?

1. Without taboo, without judgment

Start with listening. Ask, listen, don’t react with shock. Your son is not “pervert”. He lives in a superstimulated world and needs a guide, not judgment or to feel guilty.

2. Explains the operation of the brain

It shows that the problem is not “sin” or “shame” but a chemical trap. So talk about dopamine while you would talk about sugar, mobile addiction, games or drugs.

3. Differentiate sex porn sex

Real sex It implies contact, affection and care. Pornography is a performance, which is often macho, disrespectful and cruel. He explains this clearly.

4. Offer alternatives

Finally, he encourages sport, art, music, human touch. Replace potentially harmful virtual stimuli with real sources of pleasure and connection.

Conclusion

Your child is not “broken”, nor is he going through another pathology to be cataloged. It is exposed every day to a sort of content that the human brain, in particular the teenager, is not ready to manage. And the worst: It is only.

You, as a responsible adult, can be the guide on this trip. With empathy, science and love. And with the courage to talk about what nobody means, but everyone has to hear.

After all, there is one of the most important tasks of an educator Do not retire from the difficulties of intervening.

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Artur Vieira Filho (arturvieirafilho@gmail.com)

– Artur Vieira is a master’s degree in psychoanalysis, health and society; Scholar of the science of happiness and positive psychology; Sessuologist and therapist, specialist in relationships and sexuality; Co-founder of the Center for Study of Happiness; Speaker of happiness, human sexuality and relationships; Graduated in positive psychology at the Wholebeing Institute, international certification, happiness and well -being at the University of Positive; HA GBA (Global Business Administration) into happiness – transforming people and organizations from Isae/FGV – Curitiba; Guest professor at the University of State of Maranhão in the Education For Aging and Lawyer program.

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