Understand the pain of those who decide the separation and how this mourning process can be intense as who has remained
We always tend to think that whoever “has remained” is the great victim in a relationship. However, it is said little on pain of those who decide for separation.
In this article, we will explore the emotions and challenges experienced by those who make the decision to put an end to a relationship, facing both the suffering of this person and the common vision that are “in good”.
After all, this decision also involves a process of mourning and internal conflict.
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The pain of those who decide for separation
The decision to end a relationship is never easy. Those who decide for separation is not in a simple situation and they Pain is often ignored.
Although the decision makes the decision, the person also suffers and is not because he decides that pain disappears. Often, the person who decides for separation has undergone a long process of reflection, internal struggle and suffering before communicating his decision.
THE The pain of those who decide the separation is silent and internalOften transporting a feeling of guilt and frustration. Especially when he realizes that love is over and cannot force him to return.
This process becomes a real mourning, in which the person feels the loss not only of the relationship, but also of the dreams and shared plans.
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The pain of those who remain
Those who have remained is in a completely passive situation and are obliged to manage everyone feeling of impotence. There is nothing to do. After all, how to fight a partner’s certainty?
Therefore, anyone who remains is occupied by a feeling of betrayaleven without “betrayal” correctly.
Those who continue to feel the drift, abandoned, rejected, not mounted … without plan. What remains are tears.
Sometimes, depending on the impact or surprise with the news, you have the desire to juggle so that the other comes back. But it is useless.
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Is there a villain and a victim?
The error of believing that those who decide the separation “are good” is made. This is the “bad guy of history”, which causes suffering. But that’s not how it happens.
In a stable relationship, which began with the intention that was as long -lasting as possible, obviously both walk to consolidate the couple.
Love is expected to be forever and in addition to being aware of the evolution of the relationship, love, cornea, interest in perpetuating The bond can end On the one hand.
Sometimes it both happens to lose interest gradually and almost at the same time. But usually this disinterest is unilateral.
Even those who have stopped loving are frustrated. Those who stopped love shouldn’t stop loving, but this is not a decision, it happens.
Try within himself for a long time to meet the desire, the passion of the first days, but finds nothing. Those who decide for separation live a great conflict and go to mourning.
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The weight of the decision
Those who decide of separation have also lost love And it can spend a lot of time often to blame yourself, anticipating the pain of your partner, wanting to prevent him from injuring himself.
And many times, in an attempt to deny that feelings have gone alone, in the belief that there should be a stronger reason for separation, that love and desire have been exhausted, the wrong ideas are committed.
If you are in this situation, Pay attention not to make separation unnecessarily more painful What is of course, avoiding the following situations:
- Sterile discussions
- Look for a relationship outside as a way to punish yourself because of the fault for having stopped loving your partner
- Look for the proximity to “mask” your true feelings and intentions
- Ignore your partner or treat him with indifference, imagining that he will also make him stop loving him, facilitating his decision
These attitudes only prolong suffering and make the process of overcoming further for both sides.
The mourning of those who decide for separation
Those who cross this experience undergo a reflective memory afflicted because often it cannot easily accept the reality of their feelings.
And until you realize the impossibility of continuing coexistence, the Purning of loss of love, plans, common projects.
It is a mistake to believe that those who want to separate “are good”. The difference between those who leave and those who remain is the one that leaves mourning before the separation is effective.
And add all the courage necessary to communicate to the partner and balance the consequences of this decision.
The saying that “When you don’t want two not to fight“It applies perfectly in cases where the desire to separate is unilateral. When one of the two sides even communicates this decision, it has long been matured and suffered.
The feeling of relief experienced by those who come out and the apparent simplicity with which it can face the problem is often seen as insensitivity, and this is another mistake.
Each in its own form and in its time, the pain of loss livesAnd after the first impact it is always good to have this on affection relationships there is no guarantee certificate and a much less expiry date.
Beginning, medium and fine. Also the relationships that last “Until death separates us“They suffer a small mourning along the road.
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