The lack of dialogues on paternity can lead to an imbalance in family dynamics.
For the psychoanalyst, the culture of patriarchate represses the manifestation of emotions in men: this would lead women to dominate parental literature
Father’s Day, which will be celebrated next Sunday (10), is a good reason to reflect on parents’ literature. While women dominate maternity and children writing, the male gaze on these themes is still scarce. But, after all, why is it so important to have access to parents, not only to mothers?
Patriarch culture
For the psychoanalyst, the psychoanalyst, the writer and specialist of psychoanalysis Maria Bruna Mota, the absence of male voices in parents’ literature is a reflection of the patriarchate. “The culture of patriarchy imposes places defined for men and women. Man is the role of supplier, Strong, who corresponds to a man who shows no feelings,” he explains. This causes many parents to repress their emotions and consequently express themselves less.
It strengthens that the lack of dialogues on paternity can lead to an imbalance in family dynamics. “When this dynamic fails, there will be an overload for the mother, who in the end will get more in the role of this mother and will move away from the place of a woman”, warns the psychologist and the psychoanalyst. Paternal loneliness is often a symptom of this pressure, which manifests itself to the first return to work and the lack of time to take care of the child. It is here that the free conversation on the difficulties of paternity becomes vital, both for the well -being of the couple and the family.
Perspective of men
According to Dr. Antonio Carlos Turner’s opinion, a pediatric expert, the diversity of visions is fundamental for the health and development of children. “The development of the child, in its complexity and more facets, must only gain from the active inclusion of male voices,” he says.
The expert also warns of the challenge of disinformation, which directly affects pediatric treatments. Basic parents with little time to deepen the readings end up looking for quick suggestions on the internet, often using false news. A more inclusive literature, with the male perspective, could involve more parents looking for reliable information, according to the doctor.
It goes further, defending the need for a structured parental education that dominates all the environments frequented by the child. For Turner, the paternal and maternal figures have prepared for challenges, such as breastfeeding or calendar of vaccination, “will provide greater safety to the child and the adult future”, he says.
The book gives voice to the father
A book that can provide this gap is “as long as she does not sleep” by Diego Domingues (Labrador Publisher). In the work, the author tells the challenges and disorientation of the first months of paternity. Far from the idealization, he speaks of deprivation of sleep, afflictions and even the difficulty of hearing “instant love” for the child, a feeling that society expects and even accuses. “It’s not easy to love immediately. And it didn’t even have to be,” says the author. This honesty in itself can serve as an invitation for women to identify the complexity of the partner’s journey.
Edition: Fernanda Villas Bôas
Source: Terra
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