A special report on paternity written by Rodrigo Medina, who moved many people by adopting the son of his ex-wife, who died
Talking about the concept of family today and not thinking about its most varied configurations is practically impossible. Regardless of how each core is composed, all are special and have a sublime bond in common: love. On this Father’s Day, we invite one of the protagonists of a story that moved the internet a long time ago to reflect on … family.
In May of this year, Rodrigo Medina, 45, posted a video on her social media showing the reaction of her son, Bruno, 11, when he saw her newly issued adoption certificate. The boy’s mother is the ex-wife of the health insurance agent and commercial executive, who became pregnant in another relationship after the separation. The biological father decided not to hire the child and, sometime later, in 2013, the woman died of cancer. From there the adoption process began.
So, read a Rodrigo’s letter to his children – besides Bruno, he is Luana’s father. May your words inspire many families on this feast day and all others! <3
“When I start writing about my children, that 19-year-old boy always comes to mind, being such a young father. I would never have imagined a father so early, but it was one of the things I dedicated myself to the most. as a man, mature and fully ready for yet another ‘obstacle’ in life.
I’ve always been a parent. I liked to participate in everything: bathing, getting dressed, doing my hair, organizing my backpack, having a snack, going to school, going to the science fair, going to the celebrations, to the book fair. I attended gymkhana, June parties, everything. I am proud to see my children always in a playful and cognitive way to discover the world. I believe in this paternal path, different from the one I have had.
My education took place in the late 70’s, early 80’s. I remember that I never received hugs from my father, always from my mother. He did not have that emotional contact, perhaps also because he had never had it from his father. He does not know how to give love to the one who has never received. So, we had a childhood and a youth with the mother more present in the tasks and in life as a whole.
I found myself being a loving, caring, kind and caring father. My daughter has grown up and I remember different situations, like her first cycle. It was just the two of us at home. Her mother was gone and I arranged everything to make her feel good in that new world.
At 30, I separated and, some time later, my ex-wife had a child from a new relationship. I lived in another state and I knew from the start that she wanted us to have this baby together, but it didn’t happen by choice. I couldn’t imagine having a child again. Ironically, the parent never wanted to get close to the two, it was just a quick relationship.
I returned to my hometown and followed Bruno (my son) from the earliest days of his birth, always being his sister’s father. I loved that guy from first contact. I did the honors of a father, but I never imagined what would happen from then on.
Bruno was 8 months old when his mother (my ex-wife) discovered, after several tests, that she had a malignant tumor. After many unsuccessful treatments, she passed away in 2013. We held meetings with families and, at her request, Bruno has stayed with me ever since.
I started dedicating myself completely to him and started the adoption process. Among many psychological interviews and follow-ups and with social workers, on May 20, 2022, we had the recognition with adoption certificate in my name.
The letter to my children speaks of loving without judgmentit is about being a father and believing that only with love and affection can good citizens be built, it is believing that a smile heals, it is knowing that your presence is worth more than brigadeiro, it is believing that fatherhood is so important that many adults go into therapy for paternal triggers.
Therefore, if I can leave a legacy it is for the lightness of being a father. Deconstruct a lot and sit in the square, on the grass, look and say that only love builds us and makes us have the eternal reciprocity of love. I love them and my life would have no meaning without them. “
Source: Terra
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