What is the “ghost”? Understanding intentional disappearance in relationships

Ghosting is increasingly common due to the relationships built into dating apps; Here’s how to get over an “almost date”

If you’ve ever had an experience where someone special you simply met disappeared from your life without giving an explanation, then you have probably experienced “ghosting”. Increasingly common due to the relationships built on the Internet, the term comes from the English, ‘ghost‘, what in the Portuguese translation it means ghost.

The situation, worthy of horror movies, is practiced mainly by men and gains even more strength thanks to relationship apps. This is because, this lack of commitment flirt and flirt ends up opening situations like this, as the psychologist Marina Vasconcellos explains.

“People have a lot of offers and talk to multiple people at the same time, mostly men. They open up to more women and for lack of courage or because they think they don’t have the satisfaction, they discard these people and disappear. Great with the relationships and bonds that would be there. built “.

And this is a very important feature of the ghost. After all, how to get over the end of something that actually didn’t even happen? This is a very painful experience, which has a strong impact on the self-esteem of those who suffer from the situation.

Why does ghosting occur?

According to the expert, there are several reasons behind this inexplicable breakup. “Immaturity, fear of a commitment, the desire to have nothing with anyone … Sometimes it’s the people who are married and the spouse finds out. Or even, the one who has a more serious commitment – either of couple than marriage – and disappears because he does not want to tell the truth to these people Don’t have the courage to say you don’t want more“, reports Marina.

In this sense, although there is a reason behind it, That doesn’t mean it’s plausible in any kind of relationship., Everything is alright? For the psychologist, the ghost it is a clear sign of “emotional incompetence”. So in the end, getting out of this relationship that hasn’t even started ends up being a great release, right?

And how to get over something you haven’t experienced?

The experience of living ghost it is so traumatizing that many people rethink what they did wrong to deserve to experience it. However, know that the mistake is in the other and not in you. Even the psychologist is emphatic on overcoming: “imagine you deserve more“.

Also, going through this situation can be painful at first, but it can help you observe other possible signs and attitudes associated with the ghost. Therefore, Marina leaves two tips to prevent yourself:

• Pay attention to the people you surround yourself with;
• Look at the signals the person sends and how it works.

Now, if the person is missing it is because something’s wrong. Either emotionally wrong, or wrong in her life. “So the best thing to do is: follow your own path without suffering for someone who isn’t worth it,” concludes the expert.

Source: Marina Vasconcellopsychologist, psychodramatist and family therapist of the Federal University of São Paulo (UNIFESP).

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