Disappointed love: how to move forward and overcome?

Have you had a heartbreak? Change the frame of reference and find your way to affective fulfillment

Who has never passed heartbreakIsn’t that it? Unrequited love can make us feel rejected or lead us to believe that we are not enough.

Sometimes, it seems that person is climbing up there, big, unreachable. And we, small and helpless, empty and sad. How to deal with pain of a heartbreak and change this reality? Want to know more? Then read on!

How to deal with heartbreak?

Let’s say you are in front of two doors. You enter one of them. In that place everyone looks at you with affection and admiration, complimenting you, saying how much they like you.

When you leave this place, you enter next door. Here everyone looks at you with contempt and recrimination. They say they don’t like you, that you’re awful, a mean, despicable person. You leave the room and look again at the two doors in front of you.

So, you ask yourself:

• Who I am? The wonderful person or the despicable person?

You are you! Exactly the same person who visited these two places.

The only reference should be your extension

When you rely on external references, everything gets confused and you end up doubting yourself. but onlyand the reference is within, you will not allow yourself to swell with praise, nor wither with negative criticism, because you know who you really are🇧🇷

It is clear that it is pleasant to hear praise and discomfort face criticism🇧🇷 But even these can be important for self-evaluation. Remember, your consideration and feeling for yourself are not determined from the outside.🇧🇷

When we know who we are, external influence can also influence us, but it doesn’t throw us off axis, it doesn’t empty us.

Bring the attention inward

It can be difficult to bring attention inward and knowing who we are, when the media, the competitive climate, the way the outside world works, all send our frame of reference outward.

Even without realizing it, we always compare ourselves🇧🇷 Let’s empty ourselves, we wither without even realizing it. Self-esteem is dissipating and we try to stuff ourselves and make up with more of what the outside world tells us is good, beautiful, beautiful.

But the pain of a disappointment in love, of not being reciprocated, can be the impulse we needed to enter inside🇧🇷 The opportunity to discover ourselves, get to know each other better, truly realize ourselves and thus strengthen ourselves for a healthy love.

Differentiate what your expectation is and what the person actually is

The pain also comes from the expectation of love that we had projected and it didn’t come true. We feel as if the other person is taking away the possibility of love.and that there is no way, after all, he did not answer.

When we get too fixated on one person, we may have created a platonic love. Incidentally, platonic love is related to low self-esteem🇧🇷 In cases like this, we project onto the other something we want to have or be.

The possibility of loving and receiving love continues to exist. The sensation can give us the impression that it is only one thing: my desire and the person🇧🇷 But she only represents the symbol of that desire right now.

Remember: the desire is yours. It is essential to know how to discern what your desire is and who the person out there is🇧🇷 No one can take away what’s yours!

• If there is a void, it is not the lack of the other that you feel, but the lack of yourself.

Got subtle wounds?

Everything that has been invented in this world has been because someone believed and stood firm in their idea, even in the face of failures and frustrations. If loving and being loved is what you really want, then instead of suffering for each other, waiting for love outside, dust yourself off and start looking inside.

If the pain of disappointment in love is too intense, it is necessary to look inside with even more affection, as it signals a sort of subtle wound, on an emotional, mental and/or spiritual level. Including, you can take the test to identify your wounded self🇧🇷

Maybe this whole experience is happening as a call to take care of these wounds. You have to know them better to be able to cure them.

First steps to cure heartbreak

Shall we reflect a bit? Think about these questions below:

• What was your biggest pain in this experience?
• How do you see yourself when you cross it?
• What are you most afraid of or what do you most want to avoid?
• Do you remember other times when you had the same feeling?

It can be a wound related to rejection, not believing that someone can be interested in you, not being able to be someone worthy or worthy of love, not accepting that the other may not like you, the pain of the person who prefers to be with someone else and you you feel outdated.

There are many possibilities, but having clues about them is a first step in curing it. Just like a wound on your body needs to be cared for so it doesn’t become inflamed and infected, a minor wound needs attention so it doesn’t get worse.

Despite the discomfort, allow yourself to get in touch with the uncomfortable feeling. You can even close your eyes and feel which parts of your body carry this discomfort. Breathe into these points and let the pain come and go. How about creating one cleansing meditation to help erase this pain🇧🇷

A wound on the body takes time and constant healing until it heals. Heal even subtle wounds. So be patient, persist and move on.

Strengthen your love for yourself

It’s part of the cure strengthen self-esteem and self-loveso look for your ways to achieve it.

If you find it very difficult to identify and heal wounds yourself and strengthen yourself, I can help you with energy tools in consultations.

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Chickpeas Akamatsu (ceciakamatsu@gmail.com)

– Energy Therapist, provides remote consultations through Personare. She is the author of the book Para que o Amor Aconteça, from the Personare Collection.

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