“How would I have been a mother if I didn’t see a woman?”: Trans parents celebrate love and diversity

Trans parents take on demanding roles and teach that love has nothing to do with the genre.

If the paths of paternity are increasingly different, the point of arrival remains the same: the father is the one who creates, which he loves, who wants to register in the document – like two Trans parents Paulistas: One took his nephew; The other, the twins of the former girl.

Cristiano Henrique41 years old, lives with his partner and raises his nephew to Cohab 2, to Itaquera, east of San Paolo. The men’s club Barberia plays. Before the transition and adulthood, Cris had a daughter, who was a mother. His son Miguel, six years old, is legally under his grandfather’s guard, who became a father.

“The first intuition of transsexuality I had was to see Roberta closed on television. But the transition did not cross my head, I had no knowledge, I thought I was going crazy. I never understood as a woman” – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – Cristiano Henrique41 years,

To Santo André, in Greater San Paolo, Danillo Siming36, is another trans-registrative trans-registry of the ex-girl twins. Pregnancy occurred during a period in which the couple was separated. The biological father did not take responsibility, the relationship was resumed and Danillo decided to play paternity.

He shared the custody of his daughters Sophia and Isadora, almost four years. It works with computer science and is completing a post -laurean degree in software engineering, at USP. He became a father before the transition – other than Criswho took his nephew as a son during the transition, and later became a grandfather of two other grandchildren, who grew up by his mother.

Neto calls his grandfather a father and his partner, mother

With 16 years, Christian I studied, played football, I was growing in sport and I lived gender conflicts. In the second year of high school, he was pregnant. “We try to be normal, but there are no instructions, there is no accompaniment.”

“How would I become a mother if I didn’t see me like a woman?” – Cristiano Henrique

The daughter came, but the transition would only arrive years later. The key turn was the soap opera The strength of desirein which character Ivana passed to Ivan. The story also encouraged the other trans character of this relationship, in addition to the temporal coincidence: their transition began after 30 years.

“The thing that annoyed me the most was the breast. Surgery is a freedom, it seems that you remained in prison for thirty years using the body you hate. It was liberating” – Cristiano HenriqueMiguel’s father and grandfather

Cris He reports that with the soap opera, he started to “see a light, research, the thing became stronger and stronger. It was when I sat with my wife, I spoke and I fell into the head of the transition”. The nephew, MiguelThat the grandfather took over as son, arrived with him in transition.

“Today he calls me father, my mother’s partner. We live with three other cats. There is nothing unusual, we do nothing unusual, we naturalize. My daughter is calm that her son, my nephew, is raised by me, as a son. Cris.

Sophia and Isadora begin and include the world of father

At 36, Danillo He ensures that he has overcome the average life of trans people in Brazil, 35, According to the National Association of Transvestites and Trasexuals (Anthride). Before the transition, he had lesbian relationships and, with the pregnancy of an ex -girl, he realized the dream of being a father. “I always wanted to do it,” he says.

Danillo He reaffirmed the option for paternity several times, especially when the ultrasound indicated that pregnancy was double. So when he separated his girlfriend: he continued to be the father of the girls. The shared custody guarantees the presence of daughters on weekends and special dates, such as Father’s Day.

“From Now Ten Years, I will Tell You That My Daughters Are Undersanding Our Setting, Which Are Daughters of A Trans Man WHO HELPS People, Who Paid Off His Apartment, Who Has Financial Independent. But the Transition Process Never Ends” – – – – Danillo SimingFather of Sophia and Isadora.

This Father’s Day It will be demanding. “The phase is to explain that there are two houses, as a dad and mom, who have to go back after visits, these practical things.” Danillo He will walk with the girls and their mother. The daughters look a lot like his father. “Once, at the shopping center, a lady said it couldn’t be my daughters. He didn’t know, biologically, they weren’t,” he enjoys.

But, after all, what should a father be?

When we ask parents Danillo AND Christian What is paternity, the answers leave no doubts about the common vocation. “Being a father is to find out what love is. When I was younger, with all psychological conflicts, I didn’t like life. Today I don’t want to see my daughters grow up,” he says Danillo.

Like any practicing father, material concerns are not excluded. “You must be able to collect. I have only one child because I want to guarantee his future, provide school and meet needs. The affection is the most important, but does not solve everything,” he says Cris.

“My partner has a wonderful relationship with my daughters, they are very friendly. Now they speak, they understand things better. It will be the first day of the father with a certain understanding on their part” – Danillo SimingTwin father

In case of ChristianHis customers of the barber shop play, a little seriously, which is “angry”. But it is probably the strong expression of certainties. “You have to educate yourself as a real citizen, to put yourself in your real place, like a decent person.”

In the country that kills most trans people in the world, Danillo It expresses the concern of the struggle for life, literally. “I have to fight to be alive for them. It’s the most important thing”, He summarizes the father, who finished before the interview, clarifies: “I always wanted to have twins”.

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