Frances Bean pays tribute to Kurt Cobain on the 30th anniversary of his father’s death

Frances Bean Cobaindaughter of Kurt Cobain It is Courtney Loveused social media to pay tribute to his father, this Friday, the 5th. Nirvana passed away exactly 30 years ago.

30 years ago, my father’s life ended. The second and third photos capture the last time we were together while he was still alive. His mother, Wendy, used to press my hands to his cheeks and say, with a soothing sadness, “You have his hands.” She breathed them in like it was her only chance to hold him a little closer, frozen in time. I hope she’s holding your hands where she wants them to be. Over the past 30 years, my ideas about loss have been in a continual form of metamorphosis. The greatest lesson learned through grief, for almost as long as I have been aware, is that it serves a purpose. The duality of life and death, of pain and joy, of yin and yang, must exist side by side or none of it would have any meaning. It is the impermanent nature of human existence that casts us into the depths of our most authentic lives. In the end, there is no greater motivation to embrace loving awareness than knowing that everything ends.
I wish I had met my father. I wanted to know the cadence of his voice, how he liked his coffee, or what it was like to snuggle up after a bedtime story. I always wondered if he had caught tadpoles with me during the humid Washington summers, or if he smelled like Camel Lights and strawberry Nesquik (his favorites, I’m told). But there is also a profound wisdom in being on an accelerated path to understanding how precious life is. He taught me a lesson about death that can only come through the LIVED experience of losing someone. It is the gift of knowing with certainty that when we love ourselves and those around us with compassion, with openness, with grace, our time here becomes inherently more meaningful.
Kurt wrote me a letter before I was born. Her last line says, “wherever you go, or wherever I go, I will always be with you.” He kept that promise because he is there in so many ways. Whether it’s listening to a song or through the hands we share, in these moments I spend time with my dad and he seems to transcend. ✨
For anyone who has ever wondered what it would be like to live alongside people they have lost, I am thinking of you today. The meaning of our mourning is the same 🕊️🌅

Death

The tour of Nirvana passing through Germany in 1994 had to be stopped because Kurt was diagnosed with bronchitis and laryngitis. He went to a hospital in Rome and, on March 4, overdosed on champagne and Flunitrazepam.

The musician’s friends and wife convinced him to go to rehab in Los Angeles to help him combat drug abuse. Cobainhowever, escaped from the institution and returned to Seattle, without Courtney knew. An electrician found him dead in the home on Lake Washington Boulevard. Kurt would have taken his own life on April 5th.

High doses of heroin were found in the artist’s system and a shotgun next to his body.