“Yeah, I’m not even done with you”: Marta Ketro explains why women imitate

You, of course, are a terrible guy and have never done this. Well, that’s it: more, more, yes, a convulsive wave in the intimate muscles, convulsive contraction, then spread your toes, call your partner’s name, slowly relax. It is easier to perform lying on your stomach so that the man does not notice the absence of sexual redness (characteristic redness during orgasm) on the chest and neck. However, they are careless.

So, you and me – no, never, but other girls allow themselves to imitate. And not just orgasms, but downright basic things like love and intimacy. The question arises why they need this tedious theater, isn’t it easier to leave the wrong person and find the right one, with whom everything will happen on its own? No, for someone it is not easier.

The most offensive imitation for a partner concerns feelings. If it turns out that the young woman only represented love, disappointment far outweighs pride. The funny truth is that, to the observer, well-feigned feelings are virtually indistinguishable from real ones. We consider tenderness, caring, caring, the desire to be close as components of love. When a girl kisses properly, gently touches, frys cutlets, reminds not to forget the keys, initiates sex, talks about love – is this what a man should be thinking? And why should he even think when there is such happiness? And the girl, meanwhile, just needs a relationship. Or sex. Or get married. She doesn’t even start anything bad, she just needs a decent man nearby for a purpose, and this one will do. Replace the object – and after a short hesitation she will adapt to the new one and also whisper and cuddle.

Sometimes women have to fake intellectual interest and intimacy. Yes, he likes, yes, he likes sex, but there’s nothing to say. Either she only has Instagram photos in her head, or he’s stupid. Fine, fine, but pansies are an ankle-deep puddle on a good day. Sometimes he is smart, but unbearably bored or too passionate about his work (which for an uninvolved observer amounts to the same thing). It is therefore necessary to include active listening: “My God, how interesting! What did he say exactly? Wait, really … (the last words of the interlocutor are repeated or his thought is briefly told). What do you think of…? Wow!” Boredom, of course, is deadly, but for many half an hour at dinner is enough to create the illusion of communication, and then you can finally go to bed. Here it is important to keep at least approximately information in mind so you don’t ask the person ten times what they are doing next weekend and why the tank needs that little iron thing Well, send links from time to time and photos on a subject that concerns him If a woman is not completely stupid, she can for a long time create a kind of intellectual noise that will pass for a dialogue, provided that everything else goes well in the couple.

Other women are forced to portray sexual attraction. I want warmth and intimacy, while the libido is silent, but who will take us without sex? From then on, the girl launches into a simple exchange: I’m going to sleep with you, and you’ll be with me for that. So it’s necessary, it’s not necessary, but twice a week she undresses, puts on stockings (alas, not on her head, that would at least be fun) and crawls over to him on the bed, discouraged, like she was a cat. Performs hugging tricks with great tenderness, but without passion. It’s all over, now you can just love it – watching a movie together, chatting, walking, kissing.

But faking an orgasm isn’t always caused by a lack of attraction. It happens that a woman dies of desire, but for some reason a man does not suit her. It can be said that women who are very lucky with partners do not imitate an orgasm – and not because they get away with it in a hundred out of a hundred cases. But because they do not require a stable result from the lady. Often you have to sleep with men whose pride is based on the image of a super lover. He keeps telling himself and others that he’s excellent in bed, and the thought of even the slightest imperfection in his own techniques destroys him. Therefore, he does not allow it: if a woman does not have an orgasm, then she is somehow sick, there are no options. Naturally, when the frigidity is stitched in, sex becomes so disturbing that it’s easier for a girl to represent that aaaoooooooaaa he’s seen in porn.

Behind all these lies, there is rarely a terrible ruse. More often the only fear is loss or loneliness. The woman is afraid of not finding anyone else. She is afraid that if she admits to not meeting her partner’s expectations, she will simply be abandoned. I desperately need at least someone nearby or that particular person, and if you can’t be honest, okay, let me lie to you. What do you want to hear, ahhhhhhhhhhhhh