If You Want Something New: Five BDSM Accessories Everyone Should Buy

The main principle of BDSM is discipline: as sex coach Lisa Finn explains, this implies that the partners are well aware of all the risks and do everything to reduce them. Why did we mention it? It’s simple: when using one of the toys listed below, you should not forget about safety.

“Blindfolding is a great way to maximize pleasure because when you limit one sense, the others can become stronger,” says sex therapist Carol Quinn. She also reminds that using an eye patch requires confidence and good communication skills – don’t include closed-eye games in your “regime” if you don’t have both.

The gag works on the same principle as the bandage: the inability to say anything allows you to focus on the sensations and make them more luminous. There are a variety of gag types – from balls to mouth dilators that prevent you from talking but allow you to have oral sex. Whichever option you consider, sex coach Lateef Taylor advises to choose a material that, on the one hand, is safe for the teeth and, on the other hand, can be sterilized after use.

“How a nipple clamp feels depends on how tight it is and where you place it,” says BDSM expert Wala Sin. The clamps can cause a pleasurable aching feeling when twisting and a delightful feeling when pulling back as the blood comes back to the nipple.

The whip consists of a hard shaft with 10 to 50 smooth tails attached to it. The more of them, the hotter the blow will be, Taylor explains. It is best for beginners to choose soft floggers and in no way start experimenting with a partner right away. “Make sure you practice a thousand times on your pad before moving on to human play,” advises Latif.

The spacer does not allow a person to close their legs, thereby fully opening access to their body. You can use such a toy only if you completely trust yourself – only then it will make sex exciting, not intimidating. A woman wearing such a device will feel aroused, feel vulnerable, and her partner will have complete control over her.