It will press the heart: how a chamomile wedding is celebrated

Something as “mundane” in appearance as earthenware (the most popular material for making tableware) is, in fact, very symbolic. Earthenware is considered the older brother of porcelain. It is not so white, elegant and thin, but more solid and in demand in everyday life. In fact, earthenware is a mixture of several types of clay. Since ancient times, it was believed in China that this material has the ability to absorb dark energy in the house, giving back light energy. (For this reason, earthenware requires periodic high-quality cleaning, and from time to time such dishes must be renewed).

At the same time, the earthenware is still fragile, which suggests that the relationship of the spouses is still vulnerable. It is believed that the 9th year of marriage is a crisis. Many people go through turning points during this period, and according to statistics, most divorces occur during this period. So, if you managed to approach the birthday without “cracks”, you really deserve congratulations!

Finally, earthenware is associated with tea drinking, and that also means something. Strongly brewed tonic drink is a symbol of strong, invigorating and stable relationships, as well as prosperity in the family. The couple has reached the next stage, which can be considered very important.

Chamomile is an even more vivid personification of love. It is no coincidence that this flower is associated with summer, the sun, joy, pleasure and warmth. He recalls that the love between the two spouses has reached its peak. And it is not without reason that it is customary for people to guess by chamomile: “He likes – he does not like, will he press his heart? ..”. Do not hesitate: like!

Earthenware reminds us how important it is to protect relationships and possessions – after all, a broken mug (like a broken heart) cannot be put back together. But on the morning of the birthday, it is customary to do just that: beat the dishes!
Save money and prep old dishes in advance that you won’t regret getting rid of. She is the symbol of all the quarrels, disagreements, ambiguous situations, unforgettable insults and embarrassing moments that you have experienced during these nine years. It’s time to update your cookware and leave all the troubles behind.

For the spouses, it’s also a chance to dump all the negative energy – fortunately, not on each other. It is important to do things right. Choose a place where you will warmly crush boring bowls and plates.

It can be a garden, a bathroom, a balcony, a closet or a specially fenced corner in the living room. By the way, it is not necessary to choose earthenware dishes. A barely noticeable crack on the cup, a chip or an erased pattern is already a reason to send such a thing to scrap.
(In general, keeping dishes at home with which something is wrong is already a bad omen. Fries are believed to portend quarrels, splits – betrayal and betrayal. And someone else’s plate , which for some reason you borrowed from friends, promises the appearance of a rival So – you need to return it to the owners as soon as possible).

You need to beat the dishes from the heart, and best of all – to say out loud what this or that mug was “guilty” of. You can do this with your spouse. “It’s for your love correspondence with a colleague!”, “And it’s for our ruined vacation in May 2016!” – looks comical, but it will make it easier for you to get rid of unpleasant memories and let them go forever.

The fragments of the first broken plate must be carefully collected, put in a box and hidden. It is your family heirloom, personifying rejected negativity. And if you suddenly have a quarrel, or the marriage is about to divorce in the future, it will be useful to remove these fragments and remind the conflicting party that you have already left troubles in the past. (But if the partner does not meet halfway in this case, then the fragments will have to be thrown away – they will take with them the newly formed chaos).

It is considered a bad omen if one of the spouses was injured during the ritual beating of the dishes. But among the people, a ritual is also planned for this case. You should take the next cup, put a drop of blood from the cut in it and break it with special ferocity. After that, collect and immediately dispose of its “leftovers”.

By the way, the ritual beating of dishes can and should be postponed until the evening when you go to party with friends. You can divide the company into two teams and compete – which of them will destroy the most terracotta cups (or leave the most fragments) within a certain period of time.

There is a special conspiracy for happiness: the “newlyweds” must break nine plates before the feast, and the guests must state the bill aloud and wish them happiness. After each blow, husband and wife kiss. At the ninth kiss, the guests shout: “Bitter! », and everyone sits at the tables.

The name itself suggests that you need to give dishes (after all, the former “newlyweds” have already been beaten). Not only earthenware sets are suitable, but also porcelain, crystal, decorative souvenirs and figurines. The ideal option is plates or cups with birthday portraits.

It is also recommended to give a woman jewelry with earthenware inserts – brooches, pendants, earrings, pendants. A man can receive anything as a gift. However, weapons (even souvenirs) and household appliances are not considered the best choice.
The husband can – and must! – to please your wife with a chamomile bouquet or wreath. Happiness if the holidays fall in the summer. If not, that’s fine too! “African chamomile” – gerbera – will successfully replace its Russian sister. This flower symbolizes joy and purity. Mini gerberas are especially beautiful and durable – a bouquet of these beauties can please you for at least two weeks.

Holiday planners recommend decorating the banquet hall in white and yellow or white and blue. So you can beat both the chamomile theme and the Gzhel patterns.

It is best to invite exactly nine guests to the holiday (but not less!).

Nine is generally considered a sacred number, so you can play with it in different ways: nine bouquets on the table, nine dishes, nine candles. A festive cake (it can be ordered in the form of a chamomile or a huge painted plate) is also best cut into nine pieces.

An excellent solution would be to organize a peasant-themed party. Guests dressed in traditional Russian costumes (or at least with elements of such outfits), chamomile wreaths (even artificial ones), folk songs – all this will create a unique flavor and charm.

If you already have children, it is not at all necessary to arrange a magnificent feast. You can spend this day in the family circle, devoting it to active leisure. Have a picnic in nature, go to the zoo or to the cinema. A great option is to attend a master class on sculpting, firing and painting earthenware together.
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