Introvert Hell: How To Go On Dates If You’re Not Too Social?

Meetings sometimes turn into a competition, which is better, more interesting and more fun. This, of course, is not easy, but remember that the first time is scary and embarrassing for everyone! Whether you are introverted or extroverted. Relax and don’t try to jump over your head.

We will then understand why you refuse, for example, to go to a concert: you don’t like noise and crowds. It’s best to show your strengths, and if you can’t talk and not be quiet when there’s hardly anyone around, quiet places are fine for a date. Or, say, you like going to the movies and chatting there along the way, that’s also a great option.

Do you like jeans and a sweater? So, do not try to convince yourself that on a date you absolutely have to wear a dress with an open back and make up your lips with bright lipstick. If you are constrained by uncomfortable clothes, the date may not work.

Don’t be afraid to talk to a new person, just think in advance that you can answer this or that question, where you can’t think of something suitable right away. For example, it could be the reason why you broke up with your ex or the countries you visited. No need to think about the answer to the last comma, just spend a few minutes and make a plan in advance of what you will say.

If you don’t feel secure, think about a retirement plan ahead of time. Dates are not invented to laboriously pass time. And if you know you can always apologize and walk away, you’ll be more comfortable communicating.

If you’ve been on a few dates and it wasn’t the same each time, it’s worth considering your behavior. If you are unsure of your communication skills, ask your friends and try to find a way out with them. Introversion is your personality trait, it doesn’t make you humble or weird by default. If any expectation of communication is scary, maybe it’s not just her.

Many introverts don’t like dating sites and apps because they’re afraid of choosing partners and there won’t be a date. You can search for communication in a bar or club, as well as find potential partners through mutual friends.

Surely the one with whom more than one date will pass will be more sociable than you and more inclined to go out “into the light”. It’s clear you don’t like it, but sometimes it’s worth putting some effort into yourself and accepting. After all, he will be there! But if the partner constantly insists on this and it becomes more and more difficult for you to agree, think about what else you always concede to him. Maybe the relationship isn’t worth the sacrifice.