Emily Morse is a sex therapist, writer and expert on numerous radio and TV shows, as well as the host of her own podcast, Sex with Emily. Now she is 53 years old, however, as Emily admits, only the last 18 years of her sex life can be called complete.
The thing is, until she was 35, Emily… faked an orgasm. She put a lot of effort into convincing her partners that she was satisfied, but in the end she got fed up and decided to change everything. Did she succeed? Oh yeah! How? Emily is sure that her…brain played a major role in this transformation. It, and not the vagina or the clitoris, Morse says, is a woman’s primary sex organ.
What is Sexual Intelligence?
Morse is not the first to use the term. It was introduced into use by scientists Sheri Conrad and Michael Milburn, who were the first to say that sex can and should be learned by increasing your sex IQ (or SQ).
According to Morse, IQ “for adults” is the knowledge of their wants and needs and the contact of consciousness with the body, which allows them to be satisfied. According to Emily, SQ is unquantifiable and based on the five pillars of sexuality.
Embodiment: Embodiment
To pump SQ, you need to be able to integrate your mind with the body – learn to identify your desires and be “in the moment” during sex, and not float with your thoughts elsewhere – for example, in the fear that in this position your stomach seems larger, and therefore it must be changed immediately.
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Health: health
Remember a simple axiom: it’s hard to be sick and at the same time be interested in sex. Do you want to have multiple orgasms? Next, watch your health and lifestyle: eat healthy foods, take a walk every day, drink water, and get enough sleep.
Collaboration
“You should tell your partner about your desires, fantasies and taboos. Most sexual problems are related to communication. Ask what a man wants, say what you rely on yourself. Discuss the time of day when you feel comfortable having sex. Express yourself and see how things change,” advises Emily.
self-knowledge: self-knowledge
According to Morse, every woman should study herself in order to understand what excites her and what, on the contrary, kills her libido. “If people think planning destroys romance, then their intimate life is dead,” says Emily. The sex therapist is sure that the heat begins when we have time to create the ideal conditions for the fulfillment of our desires.
self-acceptance: self-acceptance
According to Emily, it’s important to come to terms with your body and past sexual experiences and to feel good about being naked. “Remember that you’re attractive and worthy of having good sex, even if you’re insecure or your past relationships leave a lot to be desired,” she says.
Read also: Moans and Hugs: 9 Scientifically Proven Ways to Improve Your Intimate Life
Source: The Voice Mag
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