8 Rules That Will Help You Maintain a Happily Ever After Relationship

If your bedtime isn’t in sync, you miss the most tender moments: when you can hug each other, whisper tender words to each other, share your most intimate thoughts. Choose a time that works for you both and your body clock will reset within a week or two.

It’s practical: it saves time and effort. You can turn on pleasant music, discuss accumulated topics, flirt with each other. What’s not a perfect evening? Well, and most importantly, at this time you can discuss how your day is going or discuss anything.

You have already discovered where everyone’s weak points lie and you have probably used forbidden techniques more than once: criticism, manipulation, getting personal, playing the silent game, etc. Choose a new conflict management strategy: without shouting or mutual insults. Find safe words that will mean it’s time to stop and be quiet so as not to cross the line. And of course, discuss that each of you has the right to disagree with your partner’s opinion.

“Honey, I love your beer belly so much!” Seriously? You don’t want to hurt your man, so you say what he wants to hear. But if you often lie about small things “for the good”, then gradually you will find yourself with a big lie: you will fake an orgasm, hide a promotion in your career, secretly flirt with colleagues. In all situations, stay on the side of good. This means that when a man asks you if you like his figure, say, “Yes, I’ve always been excited about the abs you had when we first met.” »

The old friends of each of you are a legacy of your single life. You’re lucky if you were able to fit in with your boyfriend’s company and he didn’t bring aspen stakes and garlic to a meeting with your girlfriends. But you need mutual friends. Friendships with other couples are an important part of emotional well-being. They won’t protect just one of you during quarrels, they have problems common to people of your status, and you can take an example from them in certain respects. Neither you, nor your man, nor the children will be bored in their company when they appear. Find at least one “good” couple in your circle and make a habit of spending time with them on weekends. Organize dinners together or introduce “family days” where you and your friends can only come as a couple.

Put away your phones or turn off the sound when spending time together. If you check social media frequently, what are your priorities? Why does the person next to you mean less to you than everyone else on social media? Allow half an hour in the evening (for example from 9:00 p.m.) to check your emails and urgent messages. If you want to avoid emotional exhaustion at the same time, agree that on weekends you leave a phone on, the number of which only your parents and two close friends know.

Candlelight dinners, going to the movies together, going out into nature together, it seems too simple and predictable. But the recipe has strong emotions and does not contain exotic ingredients. Go on dates at least twice a month. Just imagine a scenario in advance or find an unusual place to visit together.

You are a proponent of the idea that you should talk about your feelings rarely, but rightly so: for example, on your wedding day and on the anniversary of your meeting. Do an experiment: tell your beloved man every evening why you love him today and how he made your day better. Another option: ask your boyfriend in the morning what you can do to make him feel loved and happy. Naturally, similar actions are required from him. You will notice that this is much more effective than measured conversations about feelings.