It’s not the first time: what are the chances of forming a relationship with a divorced man? Advice from a psychologist

Psychologist: Does “people come and go, then remarry” for your boyfriend? So your chances of keeping such a husband in the family for more than a few years (and sometimes months) are slim. And should we keep it? But be careful, don’t be too lazy to explore the territory: you can sometimes diagnose “the habit of getting married” to someone who has married twice (or even three times!) because of his own stupidity, d an indiscretion or an incredible set of circumstances.

Psychologist: Everybody makes mistakes. If the marriage was short, most likely this is a mistake noticed in time. This fact means nothing. The less baggage your man will carry from a past life with him into a new one, the better off it will be for both of you!

Psychologist: Beware of comparisons with your ex-wife! But you still don’t have to cling to that: if a man compares you, it’s not because he still thinks about her, but out of habit. The frequent comparisons continue after a few months of living together? So, it seems, there is reason to think…

Psychologist: A man, even once traumatized in a previous relationship, will react sharply to anything that even remotely reminds him of the pain he has been through. This does not mean that after the betrayal of his wife, a man will forever turn into a misogynist. Everything is much finer. Cheating does not start from scratch, it is always preceded by something in the family – some have a storm, others are calm. It’s those storms (or vice versa) that your loved one will be wary of in a new relationship – and protect themselves where you, it seems, have given no reason.

Psychologist: Find out what kind of relationship your man has with his child. Find out how and how much they communicate, what are his financial obligations. This is a given and you will have to accept these figures in hours and rubles. Do not try to influence them seriously! By persuading your lover to spend less time with a child or by reducing child support from a fair amount to a miserable percentage of a “white” salary, you will turn an honest person into a little scoundrel. Think carefully if you need one next to you.

If you cannot accept the situation – respect your husband for being a man and establish normal relations with his children – it is better to walk away. Look for childless ones.

Psychologist: If your divorced young man is not very young, you have a better chance of winning. The statistics show it: in this case, it is better to marry a divorced than never married. After all, if before the age of 35 a man did not have a relationship that he would believe in, then before you start dreaming of a wedding dress, you should ask yourself: “What wrong with him?” Alas, you are unlikely to be satisfied with the answer. And we don’t even know where to look for the cause: in immaturity, selfishness or unhealthy relationships with parents.