Fernanda Nobre on open relationship: “It’s a political act, not because I want a crazy life”

Fernanda Nobre on open relationship: “It’s a political act, not because I want a crazy life”


The actress has been in a 12-year relationship with her husband, director José Roberto Jardim, and has just launched the platform Manifesto Feminino





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When a debate arises about non-monogamy and open relationships, it is common to think that the choice lies in greater freedom and sexual and romantic experiences. For some it may be so, but for Fernanda Nobre it was not so. The actress has been in a 12-year relationship with director José Roberto Jardim. In 2020, they opted for non-monogamy after spending years studying feminism.

“I started looking at monogamy because I was looking at feminism. I realized that they created monogamy to control us, to control our sexuality and to control reproduction. It has nothing to do with love. It’s a very subtle and very clever strategy to think that we’re doing it for love. And, no, honesty is looking at our sexuality, looking at agreements as they are and having gender and behavioral equality. So, I started questioning monogamy because of feminism. It is much more a political act than the desire to live a sexually crazy life”, says Fernanda in an interview with Earth.




Fernanda Nobre started talking about non-monogamy in 2020

The actress analyzes that the landscape regarding non-monogamy has already changed a lot in the last few years since she started speaking publicly on the topic. “Men use this argument to justify their desire not to be in a relationship. Then women think they’re stupid because they’re monogamous, because they’re jealous. It has nothing to do with it. They can choose monogamy, as long as it’s a choice, not an imposition. Now it’s becoming another imposition on male well-being.”

“What we often see are men who say they would start a relationship with a woman, but they will only accept that relationship if she is non-monogamous, if she is open. And to hell with whether the woman is ready or not. Non-monogamy is a political act, it is not sexual exploitation,” adds Fernanda.

The artist explains that this and other transformations in the way she sees her life and the world began more than ten years ago, when she began to devote herself to the study of feminism. This desire to delve deeper into the dilemmas experienced by women arose after feeling touched by the #Firstharassmentwhen women, anonymous and famous, shared accounts of the first times they had been harassed on social media.

“When I started reading the testimonies, I saw that I was very harassed and I normalized them all. I am a victim of it. There I began to understand that what I was experiencing in love and friendship relationships, that some relationships were toxic, some were violent, and I was normalizing them. It was my great awakening. Feminism completely contaminated me. It is who I am. I can no longer see the world through different glasses.”



Fernanda Nobre and her husband, José Roberto Jardim

Fernanda says feminism liberated her, gave her self-esteem and also made her understand what her true desires were. Furthermore, after years of study, she obtained a master’s degree based on feminist theories. Now the artist wants to pass on this knowledge and discuss these issues with other women. That’s why we launched the platform Female poster.

“I truly believe that theory can be used to open minds and expand knowledge,” says Fernanda. He explains that the platform will host courses on topics such as abusive and toxic relationships, aesthetic pressure, romantic love, monogamy and female sexuality and will also promote meetings every two weeks, in which he will discuss these and other topics with participants and delve deeper into the content. “I want to bring feminism into everyday life. My research is to identify what strategies patriarchy uses to keep us functional,” she defines.

In addition to spreading knowledge, Fernanda Nobre also advocates for the importance of women coming together and talking about their dilemmas and experiences. She maintains that one woman can help another and recalls that the writer Fernanda Young was one of the people who supported her the most.

“She died when we were very close, we were doing a show together. We were going to debut in seven days. She was a turning point for me. She gave me a lot of strength to say what I was already studying, to spread it to the world. I was very validated by her, she is a woman I admire very much. She was a before and after in my life,” he recalls.

Five years ago, when she began speaking out on issues related to feminism, non-monogamy and taking a broader stance, the actress recalls that she was afraid of being harmed professionally. “I was scared, but I also didn’t want to stop. Feminism made me realize that so much of who I was and what I did was to be accepted, to fit in at work, in my body, in love. I don’t want to fit in anymore, I want to get rid of it. If it has to get in my way, get in my way, but it will get in my way because I did it, not because I didn’t. I was tired of trying to do everything right.”

Even taking a stand, the actress continued to work actively. He is currently touring Brazil with the show Three tall womenperforming in a different city every weekend, and also doesn’t hide his desire to return to soap operas.

“I started working when I was eight and I have never stopped. Thirty-four years have passed and there hasn’t been a year of my life in which I wasn’t on a film set or on a stage. I don’t know who I am if I’m not an actress. I don’t even have a memory of myself without it being linked to a job. I love doing soap operas. It’s bloody tiring, it’s exhausting work, but I like it. I arrive on a set and I feel like it’s my home, I want to really come back”, says the actress, who also intends to continue with other works. “I’m very happy to have found feminism and to have found this place as a communicator. It’s something completely new to me and I feel a purpose,” she concludes.

Source: Terra

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