Emotional attachment – the higher it will be, the more painful it will be

In this week’s column, Adriana Mantana talks about the case of emotional attachment between Cristina and Rafael

Christian, a 42 year old single woman. With a 20-year-old son, she fell in love with Rafael. He, 10 years her junior, didn’t want anything serious. They had an intense, but not a given, relationship.

At some point, Rafael had to move to another city. He went to the other side of the country, so they were more than 2,000km apart.

Since the beginning of their involvement, Cristiana has done more than he has for the relationship. But she didn’t realize she was doing it. Many friends have tried to warn, but she was fond and saw nothing, she only had eyes and ears for Rafael.

He couldn’t tell, but one Sunday afternoon, after lunch, he texted her saying he needed money for lunch. According to him she hadn’t found a job and she needed Cristiana’s support. Moved by attachment and passion, she spent R $ 2,000.00 for him.

After all, I loved him and wanted to please him anyway. But since that day he has asked for more and more money. And he couldn’t say no. Every time he asked, she moved. She had a reserve that she had been saving for years, and the money ran out, until it ran out for good.

Not knowing what to do, he asked for a loan, because Rafael was always asking for more. One day, while looking at his social media, he saw him with another woman. In the description, she said that she was the love of her life and that they were getting engaged.

Immediately, she contacted him as she was in shock. She didn’t understand how she could do this to her. After all, she loved him and was deeply in debt because of her.

When she called, she heard laughter from the other end and he abruptly ended the relationship. There is no longer that shred of dignity that Cristiana still had.

Despite all this, she begged him to stay with her, but he hung up on Cristiana, who was crying and talking to herself not knowing what to do on the other end of the line.

The greater the attachment, the greater the pain

This story above is very similar to a series on Netflix on the Tinder scammer. If you haven’t seen it yet, I highly recommend you watch it.

Often a person has a high level of attachment because they are emotionally deficient. I dare say that the majority of the population, unfortunately, is like this today.

How to prevent this kind of thing from happening?

The first thing to do is identify what the emotional gaps are, then cleanse, release, and practice self-love. While it may sound complex, I assure you it is not.

Attachment can be very destructive. Christiana didn’t know what to do. He has been very ill for three weeks. After this period, she received an email from Rafael, saying that he needed the money. What did he do? She was very happy that he sent her an email and transferred R $ 1,000.00 to her account.

What drives a person to behave like this?

Lack of emotional nurturing, fear of abandonment, need and attachment. The only way for a person to protect themselves is to learn to treat themselves better, balance their emotions, and prioritize their physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

The more emotionally fragile a person is, the more touchy they will be. So what would it be like to learn to put yourself first?

Take care with love! Big hug!

Adriana Mantana.

Source: Terra

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