Maybe you don’t remember what it means to look at yourself and accommodate your needs.
Are you one of those people who, while doing everything right, realize that life is all wrong? You find the altruistic ideal of helping others and serving others very beautiful, but when that neighbor is yourself, do you find it difficult to accept receiving help?
So it is. Perhaps you are suffering from self-abandonment. And, it becomes difficult to understand, because it’s very likely that you don’t even remember what it’s like to look at yourself, accommodate your needs, experience pleasure and rest.
labour intensive
A common characteristic of those in an abandoned situation is that they are very dedicated people, always trying to do their best and putting a lot of energy into making things work.
It doesn’t really measure efforts, to the point where it doesn’t respect its own limits. It turns out that physical or mental exhaustion is fate in the long run.
of the good
Also try to be a good person, in the sense of trying to improve yourself every day, reflecting on your own thoughts, attitudes and opinions.
But those who are abandoning themselves tend to weigh down this analysis and, not infrequently, fall into the trap of judgment and excessive pressure on themselves.
As a result, you are likely to feel guilty and put yourself in unpleasant situations to punish yourself.
helping others
It is common that these people also have the desire to help improve the conditions of those around them and want to get involved to solve the world’s problems.
The point is that this commitment to the outside world can cover intimate needs and needs, which end up being left aside and even forgotten in the face of the urgency of other matters.
forget the main
In this way, the aura of benevolence and good nature masks self-abandonment.
Understand: there is no problem and it is also desirable to pay attention to each other and to the world. But here we are talking about the characteristics of people who are unable to do all this on their own.
And it’s no news that it’s impossible to offer what you don’t have. If I don’t have the vibration of caring and self respect, how can I possibly want to offer that to others or want things to work out?
This fact of not giving priority to one’s own needs, leaving aside what is main, can hide some points of the unconscious worthy of attention, such as:
– do not consider yourself worthy of receiving care and benefits,
– condemn pleasure,
– wait for someone to come and “save” her,
– be deluded that one day your moment of peace will come.
negligence with you
Imagine a small child who needs a guardian to meet his needs. Now imagine this little girl left alone in the street, waiting for someone to come and help her and that person never comes.
The baby starts to feel distressed, crying and kicking, but nothing changes. Then it has to “turn around” and grows. But the signs of that pain will be recorded in her forever.
This idea is awesome, isn’t it? But those who abandon themselves do it to themselves, leaving their needs abandoned and powerless, creating deep marks in their being.
Your share
In the universe, the rules and laws of nature, the functioning of your body and the perfection of life are already in place.
What is open is the work that each of us must do. It is the function of each and everyone to try to be happy.
And certainly self-abandonment is not part of that happiness. On the contrary, it is precisely trying to live life in the best possible way, paying attention to what the heart asks for, taking care of oneself so as to have something to offer to others, which will bring more satisfying and fulfilling days.
save you
Did you relate? Take the first step to save yourself from this abandonment pattern you are in. A therapist can help bring clarity to your issue, as well as work on undoing the energetic and spiritual clutter and blockages involved in your process.
Text: Bia Albuquerque (@biaaterapeuta), Energetic-Spiritual Therapist, Master Human Therapist, Spiritualist Psychoanalyst, Circle of Life Facilitator, and Therapy Deck Reader
Source: Terra
Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
