Identify the reason for problems and dissatisfaction with simple tasks
Those experiencing crises in their relationships tend to blame what goes wrong in the other person or on external events, such as family problems and quarrels.
However, if you’re going through this situation, you need to take responsibility for the choices that made you be with a certain person.
This is what I explain in audio below. Find out how a few minutes of Meditation can be an important tool to help you overcome crises in your love life.
Listen and find out how meditation can solve relationship crises:
people who are dissatisfied in a relationship they tend to complain mostly about their peers. In addition, it is also quite common to complain about routine, quarrels, tiredness, communication difficulties.
The big problem with relationships is that people only consider part of what actually happens. But we must remember that we are not only what we say, perceive or see.
In reality, we also interact with others and the outside world with our set of emotions, thoughts and all that we are on a more subtle level.
So, in a very didactic way, it should be said that we are not just physical beings, but physical, emotional, mental and spiritual beings. That is, we interact with the world and with people on all these levels.
Since we live in a very outward oriented world, we always think that things just happen “out there”. Generally, we blame external people and events for what goes wrong in our lives.
With this, we forget that, in reality, it is we who make the choices that place us with a certain person or in certain situations.
See more here on what negative patterns could be hurting your love life.
The brain knows how to deal with what is inside and outside of you
The first step in bringing your attention inward is through meditation. You may be wondering: “but how Meditation can help me?”.
Helping just to disconnect you a little from what’s happening outside, to start strengthening your perception and awareness inside you – and not outside.
Internally we have the tools to deal with these two areas, i.e. with what is inside and outside of us.
OR left side of the brain is linked to more rational decisions, it is connected to our “doing, solving and understanding”. already the right side of the brain is more subtle, it tries to perceive what is abstract, it is linked to matters of “feeling”.
In our daily lives, everything draws attention to what is “outside”. Therefore, we end up using our left brain abilities a lot, as we want to create, solve and understand the world.
And this side becomes so hyper-activated with those daily activities that demand a lot of us, that we end up forgetting our more receptive, intuitive and peaceful side.
Meditation is the way to better understand your emotions
A Meditation is a tool to calm the left side of the brain and start bringing awareness to the right side, helping us to better understand our emotions and what is really going on in our mind.
Our lives are often so busy that we don’t notice it what are we trying AND how our mind works.
Thus, in the middle of an argument, for example, different feelings can surface and a series of thoughts pass through the mind, without us realizing what is really happening.
Meditation helps develop self-awareness and awareness so that when problems occur, the person has a real awareness of whatever they are doing and of who they are at that moment.
Don’t run away from negative feelings, embrace them
Meditative processes act on the right side of the brain and bring perceptions that come through us insights and sensations that are often difficult to explain, as they do not pass through the rational (left side of the brain).
For example, during a meditation, scenes, images, feelings, memories, symbols, and even colors or objects may arise in your mind.
The important thing is to be open, because sometimes it’s not possible to understand the perception in that moment, but if it has arrived, leave it on record.
You can, for example, even write them in a diary. In time it will all make sense. Try not to judge or shut yourself down, because there is no right or wrong. Relax and see what happens.
It is natural that in this process negative thoughts, memories and, above all, feelings begin to emerge.
After all, if you try to figure out what’s wrong with your life or relationship, the tendency is for some blockage to arise or what’s not right.
So when the negative feeling comes, don’t try to stop it or give up. Ideally, let him come, get in touch with him and feel him.
The big problem is that we don’t allow ourselves to feel the negative, we are afraid because we don’t want him to take care of us.
But now, make a choice: “He won’t take care of me, but I’ll allow myself to contact him.”
This awareness, in itself, is already driving change. It’s not a planned change, it just happens. Mindfulness is a great medicine, a great tool.
How to start meditating and resolve my relationship crises?
People always ask when they want meditate, where should you start. You can start with the simplest, which is to be silent for five minutes every day, preferably when you wake up and before bed.
A task that takes so little time is doable, you can do it without excuses. Of course, when you start doing it, your mind doesn’t want to stop, the tendency is to find it boring, but it’s important to be persistent.
If you really want to delve into meditative activities, it is interesting to try different types, a group or a line of spiritualist meditation.
The important thing is not to give up after doing it just once, because you think you didn’t like it. Try practicing the technique over the course of a month. Look for teachers, techniques and different meditation spaces.
This alone will already train your perception of what you like, consider cool and will bring a satisfying effect to your life. Allow yourself to try and don’t fall into judgment, saying the activity isn’t for you. Try to be more open to this type of work.
Everyone will have a greater identification with a type of Meditation or meditative line, being able to say what is best for them. How about trying it? If you need help, call me here, I’m an expert in love.
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Chickpeas Akamatsu (ceciakamatsu@gmail.com)
– Energy Therapist, provides remote consultations through Personare. She is the author of the book Para que o Amor Aconteça, from the Personare Collection.
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Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
