The big lesson is that there is no age for divorce, just as there is no age for getting married.
In my daily life at the office I have noticed a growing phenomenon: gray divorce, a term that refers to the divorce of people aged 50 or over who decide to leave their partner after a long relationship.
This is, in fact, an increasingly common reality in Brazil. Over the past two decades, the number of separations in this age group has increased by 28%, compared to 22% among younger couples (ages 20 to 50), according to IBGE data.
Among the factors that explain this trend are greater life expectancy, the financial and professional independence of women and less stigmatization of divorce, since until the 1970s separations were highly frowned upon in society, even imposing the exclusion of women from society. Fortunately, women’s empowerment has given women the courage to say “no” to an unsatisfactory marriage.
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Nowadays we live in a longer-lived society and currently have more grandparents than grandchildren. People in their 50s and 70s want to dedicate themselves to something that makes sense to them, and there is a great search for purpose. Those who have children and have already raised them seek, in this phase, quality of life, health, fulfillment of dreams and personal fulfillment.
Added to this is the fact that both men and women increasingly value freedom and pleasure at all stages of life. Obviously the choice of divorce fits into this context and it is necessary to talk about the benefits of the process for those who experience it. Yes, because if on the one hand a separation can be tiring and represent the end of a cycle, on the other hand it brings with it many positive experiences.
One of the main ones, for example, is the possibility of resuming set aside dreams, set aside due to marriage. This could be anything from a solo trip to taking dance lessons – the important thing is to put them into practice!
With a freer schedule it is also possible to take better care of your health and dedicate yourself to activities that bring well-being, at the most convenient times. But not only that: the tendency is for the recently divorced person to also look more at themselves, favoring self-care.
How about spending a few days in a hotel with a heavenly view, incorporating a massage program into your agenda, or making small changes in attitude, like opting for a new haircut?
The big lesson here is that there is no age for divorce, just as there is no age for getting married. In short, whether you are in a relationship or not, the key is to have one or more plans, something that gets you out of bed and enjoy life. Because it is a gift we received and we did nothing to deserve it. The idea, therefore, is to discover new ways to celebrate our existence in every moment.
Sylvia Loeb is a psychoanalyst and one of the founders of the “My age does not define me
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Source: Terra
Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
