Couples therapy helps improve communication, resolve conflicts and strengthen the relationship between partners
A couples therapy It is an important line of treatment to address common conflicts in the emotional dynamics between couples, regardless of gender or relationship configuration.
During the most critical period of the pandemic, the number of divorces broke the record in Brazil and even today it is possible to observe the consequences of this period in relationships, especially among people who remained together after the quarantine.
This is a reality measured and demonstrated not only in research, but also based on growing demand couples therapy in the country. But, after all, when should you seek couples therapy?
Below, clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst and couple therapist, Wagner Marinho, highlights five situations in which couples therapy may be necessary. Watch:
1. Conflict of interest
It is common to measure complaints about worldview, plans, travel, children or incompatibility of ideals, even when we observe reciprocity in feelings. Some people find it hard to believe that a relationship can work when there is polarization in some areas of the relationship.
“For example: if one likes the beach and the other prefers the farm, both have two options for pleasure and enjoyment. However what we observe is one of the active parties in most decisions, that is, only one fully enjoys it , and it is this condition that unfortunately leads many relationships to end”, explains the expert.
2. Affective dynamics
Affective dynamics do not only concern sexual relationships, but what precedes them. Relationships that lose their ritualization or constant conquest are unlikely to be doomed to failure in the medium to long term. Contrary to what one imagines, there are very few cases in which sex appears as a primary request.
What we observe is a process of automatization of the relationship that changes the subjects in an antagonistic way, such that they no longer see meaning in the relationship, even if they know and feel that the other is important in their life. The good news is that requests like this are relatively easy to handle.
3. Abusive relationship
The abusive relationship is structural and complex. The first question a person should ask themselves when they believe they are being abused is: how much sense does this relationship make for me?
There are rare cases in which an abusive relationship requires couples therapy, however this is a long debate, involving many factors, and for this reason screening is essential to address each case.
“It is also worth highlighting that in offices we rarely see the figure of the abuser, who directs the welcome and care provided to the person who suffers the abuse”, adds the psychologist.
4. Hormonal dysfunctions
This is a crucial point that must be evaluated in the screening through the complaint presented by the couple and in the behavioral investigation.
“Partners with a sedentary lifestyle, with neglected work dynamics, with a poor diet, who live automatically and without exposure to daylight, for example, are more susceptible to developing hormonal dysfunction,” says Wagner.
In these cases, in addition to a good couples therapist, medical monitoring is necessary to evaluate symptoms that indicate the presence of a possible diagnosis.
5. Infidelity
This is a sensitive topic and causes a lot of pain for the betrayed person. However, as much as looking at the facts seduces us into morality and judgment, each case must be observed with care and empathy and a different line of management must be invested in it.
There are people who are not willing to forgive based on undeniable indicators and/or their own values. In these cases the treatment must be individual and not as a couple. On the other hand, there are people who are forgiving for relativizing what happened, largely motivated by structural beliefs like “every man cheats,” which is not true.
The traitor, in turn, most of the time does not feel guilty and maintains his attitude based on limiting beliefs about his condition in the world, but there are those who deeply regret it when they realize they have put themselves at risk. a relationship with the roots. rooted in memories, achievements and suffering.
However, it is worth pointing out that remorse tends to arise after finding out about your spouse. Since this is a request full of subjectivity and danger, a multidisciplinary team could be appointed to monitor the case.
Source: Terra
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