When a person is betrayed, it is common to try a lot of frustration, anger and even desire for revenge
Discovering a betrayal of the loved one is very sad and disappointing. Many couples cannot forgive themselves in situations like this and end up separating even when they are in long relationships.
“Usually the feeling of betrayal generates a crack in the couple’s relationship. When this happens, it is common to experience a lot of frustration, anger, sometimes the desire for revenge and even the desire for separation. There are couples who cannot overcome a betrayal”, says the psychoanalyst Ana Gabriela Andriani, master and unicamp.
Is it worth forgiving a betrayal?
According to the professional, forgiveness has nothing to do with the denial of the situation, pretending that it would not happen. “The slot is there. Forgiveness has to do with the possibility of overcoming this. What I see is that this is possible for both couples who have a great emotional bond and for those who have emotional resources to support this situation, this reflection,” he explains.
This often allows the pair to build new foundations of trust. “They do not return to the original point of when they came out or from the point before the betrayal, but they can understand each other and get to know each other more integrated with their qualities and defects. They can realize that the relationship has defects and build a deeper relationship in this sense of knowing more and more quality of trust”, adds Ana Gabriela.
The psychoanalyst claims to realize in the couples who meets that forgiving himself is possible and is worth it as well as when you have this strong bond of affection. “When the couple believes that the gratification that gives the other is greater than the frustration of the betrayal and that this can be integrated into the relationship. The betrayal can be integrated into the relationship as a moment that was part of the history of the couple”, he concludes.
Source: Terra
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