Escape while there is time: learn to understand if a relationship is toxic

A topic that involves life between people and it is always a source of concern is the toxic relationship so called. How to identify? How to avoid? In the BBB 23, also, a case attracted attention and had repercussions: Gabriel Fop’s relationship with Bruna Griphao.

In a conversation, Bruna said it was the man of the relationship. Gabriel then replied: “But you will have elbows in the mouth.” The presenter Tadeu Schmidt, then gave a live reprimand to the participant.

“I am here to warn him before he is late. Those who are involved in the relationship may not even realize themselves, but those who are outside can see when the boundaries are about to be seriously obsolete. In an emotional relationship, some things cannot be said or joked,” said Tadeu.

See now ingredients that, according to psychologists and behavioral analysts, characterize a problematic relationship. A control person, for example, tries to determine what the other can we wear, speak, eat and even do with his money.

Another sign of the violent relationship is in verbal aggression, using words that influence self -esteem, as “fat”, “ugly”, “old”. This can also generate anxiety and depression.

Verbal aggression, unlike physics, leaves injuries to mental well -being and not in the body. Physical aggression, by the way, is a crime in Brazil.

Still in this line, there are threats, which cause an devastating emotional and psychological effect. They are threats of complaints (often unfounded) and relationships of relationships, among others.

It is also common for the author to ask that the victim is not with his family and friends simply because he does not want, neither for mere antipathy nor out of jealousy.

According to experts, phrases like “if you go out with your friends, it’s because you don’t love me” is an example of threat. This is the famous emotional blackmail.

Financial abuse, a line of psychological abuse, is also common in this type of relationship. The attacker wants to check the victim’s expense, but also borrow money and not return.

Threats can come before “punishments” like silence and disappeared. This posture tends to make the wrong person feel and guilty, for something he hasn’t even done.

Still in this line, it is common for the victims to stop doing what they want because of the fear of the partner’s reaction, like losing the loved one.

A toxic relationship usually has many criticism, some even constructive, but more destructive, shaking the victim’s self -esteem.

In this line, another feature is the lack of support. The victim asks for help, but is not corresponding.

Excessive jealousy is one of the characteristics of a violent relationship. Jealousy is so much that people outside the relationship can see. This can also undermine the self -esteem of the victims, who think they make mistakes and giving rise to believing in betrayal.

Therefore, what happens a lot is the lack of honesty in the relationship. Often, the victim is also dishonest, fear of the reaction of the adner.

Another serious thing is that the victim requires his passwords from social networks, as well as devices such as mobile phone and computer.

Leaving a toxic relationship seems easy, but when there are many psychological threats and torture, the victim does not realize that the error is not in it. The first step is to question your healthcare and realize that the relationship is not going well.

In some cases, such as threat and even physical aggression, it is essential to go to the police station and report. It is also important that if you realize that you are having these oppressive attitudes, stop immediately. In case of doubt, talk to your partner.

It is interesting to note that although the cases involving offensive men are more disclosed – and certainly more common – there are also events in which women are responsible for the toxic side of the relationship. There are also women who reach the point of killing or ordering the death of the partner.