Because being too good can get sick in silence

Being too good may seem virtue, but it is often a reflection of ancient pain. And if you are not giving for love, but out of fear?

Being too good may seem virtue, but it is often a reflection of ancient pain.

During our life, we learn that love is to donate, give, serve. The prayer of San Francisco says “where there is hate, that I take love …” speaks.

It is a hymn for peace. A call to light. But it also strengthens something that you may have learned like me, that the path of the soul must be kind, silent, compassionate. May give more, more purifying. That salvation lives in the service.

But … and if I tell you, for many of us, this Has “Love” become a sophisticated form of cars -abandon? And if you are not giving for love, but out of fear?

• Fear of being forgotten.
• Fear of being rejected.
• Fear of being … is you?

When being a nice appearance hurts

Are we really talking?

So how many times you:

• Have you offered a ride with your heart in ruins?
• Did you smile by swallowing the cry?
• So I said “I’m quiet, I solve“When did you help everything in you to ask for help?

This is where the pain of the “beautiful” begins. Not visible pain. But what corrodes inside and whispers: “If I’m not always good, nobody will love me”.

How the “Bonzinho” was born

Many of us have learned to be good not by choice, but out of survival. An absence, a scream, an acute gaze during childhood were sufficient to arise the belief:

“If you don’t work, they will keep me around.”

So the good is born:

• This anticipates the pain of others, but ignore yours.
• This carries the world on the back, but does not know how to ask for the tour.
• This confuses love with acceptance.
• And this is exhausted, but does not allow itself to stop.

The spirituality that taught us to donate up to

With all respect for spirituality, we must recognize: he has often taught us an unattainable ideal of holiness.

• “Give it is better than receiving.”
• “It is noble to sacrifice himself.”
• “It is divine to give you completely.”

But anyone who donated to the disappearance does not become a saint. Become a shadow.

And an exhausted soul:

• Do not question.
• Don’t rebel.
• It does not protect itself.

This is not faith. Abandonment is authorized. Therefore, it deserves to be careful.

The illusion of unconditional love: when to love it is betraying

Let’s go more deeply?

Then tell me how many times you:

• Did he say “yes” what did he mean “no”?
• Have you offered hugs that were requesting for help?
• Was he loving with the world and cruel to you?

This compulsive goodness is not virtue. It is a trauma.

And the signs signs:

• I attract people who know only how to ask.
• Live in the eternal effort to please.
• Believe that there is love only if you go out first.

But how long?

The body screams what the mouth turns off

The good boy gets sick:

• Pains that medicine does not explain.
• Chronic fatigue.
• Night anxiety.
• Emptiness also surrounded by the affection.

Why?

• Because the body feels the silent violence of never being a priority.
• Because the soul knows that it is used.
• Because the inner child asks: “Look at me! Choose me! I love!”

What nobody told you: you have the right to receive

The cure begins when:

• Stop violating yourself in the name of love.
• Learn Reception is also sacred.
• Realizes it Limits are ways of loving.

Saying “no” can be your biggest act of compassion.

And it is here that the therapy becomes beacon. A house. A safe place to meet you again.

Supplementary therapy: love returns to true self

In supplementary therapy:

• Your pain is welcomed.
• The good can rest
• You can say: “I need it too.”

Tools that support this process:

• Reiki: Realinha your energy field.
• Pranic healing: It cleans the loads from the past.
• Meditation of twin hearts: He teaches to love without canceling.
• Auriculotherapy, floral, Stiper: Reconnect with body, borders and desires.

These practices reveal a simple and liberating truth: You don’t have to break to be loved. In fact, you can be light even when you need the tour.

The Revolution of Pepropry love

Maybe you only know how to love if you give too much. But:

• Everything OK. You learned this to survive.
• Now you can divert. It can re -enter.
• You can love yourself without abandoning.
• Can take care of yourself Before taking care of the other.
• Furthermore, it can be good nevertheless.

If you arrived here, know:

This text is not a judgment. It is an invitation. A reminder:

After all, you also deserve to be loved with the same intensity you love. And maybe … start with you.

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Eric Flor (eriflorfrancisco@gmail.com)

– Eric Flor is an supplementary therapist with a degree in physiotherapy, acupunctant and master in Reiki. It makes online and face to face in João Pessoa with auriculotherapy, windy therapy, Mox therapy, Orgonitherapia, crystall therapy and pranic healing (treatment of care) in promoting health at all levels, balance and well -being.

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