In the courage to be real, we discover ourselves and create deeper ties with those around us; The writer reflects on the subject
We live in a company that requires constant strength and resolution. With the slightest sign of vulnerability, we are quickly labeled as fragile, unable to face daily pressure. But is anyone always strong?
At that intimate moment, only you with yourself, don’t you allow yourself to feel, put yourself in a position of vulnerability? This does not mean taking on a role of weakness, but to allow yourself to live your emotions as they really are. When we deny our weaknesses, we also move away from the essential parts of what we are. Being vulnerable is first of all an act of courage and an invitation to the truth.
The weight of looking strong all the time
Since childhood, we are educated to believe that showing emotions is a sign of weakness, in particular men, who have constantly felt the phrase: “Man doesn’t cry”. Women, in turn, was taught to doubt their emotions with phrases such as: “You are exaggerating” OR “The woman is very sensitive.”
What remains for us as a company? We doubt what we feel for fear of judgments. And worse again: we become insensitive. It is as if our eyes wore a lens that is not very sensitized by what happens around us. The world could collapse around us, but the tear is trapped, because we normalize the idea that external chaos has nothing to do with us.
Over time and the experiences we have accumulated, this posture becomes too heavy a armor for the walk. This armor disconnects us from our essence and in particular our own humanity. In these contexts, we create various versions of ourselves that adapt to standards, but unfortunately, few or none welcome our truths, our pains and our silences.
Vulnerability as a portal for self -awareness
At this moment we live, allowing ourselves is an act of love for oneself. In a world where we are increasingly invited to hide us To be well visited in social contexts, this permit is, yes, a gesture of love for oneself.
This process of allowing us is like unlocking the door of our world, where we are appearing as ideal characters of a story that does not represent us. It is putting yourself in a vulnerability position. Being vulnerable is to allow yourself to understand that we do not need to have all the answers and that being in control all the time does not guarantee that we will be accepted or that everything will work.
While removing the space for the car -judice, we begin to perceive the models, the limiting beliefs, the unique wounds and our real desires that have been forgotten. In this space, we understand that we can be afraid, sadness or even anger that does not make us weak, make us human.
Connecting together starts connecting with you
Many believe that being vulnerable damage to the ties we create, because we can seem too weak or sensitive, removing the opportunities. But in fact, vulnerability deepens our relationship with ourselves and profoundly transforms ties to others.
When we allow us to access more authenticly, without fear of exposing our fears and weaknesses, we create a space in which the other can also be revealed. It is in this space that we cannot support the relationships between idealized characters and build links between real people, with pain and real challenges, and we do not need to hide it. There, everything you ask is that you are completely: present, authentic and true.
It is in this meeting, where there is mutual opening, that the most true connections are born, based on listening, affection and acceptance of what it is and not what should be. I finish with a parable that speaks to the heart of what has been said – short in words, in depth in the direction. “A master transported water every day in two clay ships hanging on the ends of a stick. One of the ships had a crack and, in the end, has always arrived with only half of the water. Feeling guilty for his imperfection, the chapped vase apologized to the teacher. The teacher replied to the vase: have you ever realized? It is here that your water fell that all these flowers flourished along the road. “
On the author
Frederico Henrique Madiaira Fernandes He was born in Mococa (SP) and graduated in Business Economics, Post -Laurea in Human Resources and MBA in Leadership, Innovation and Management 4.0. Acts as a specialist in REMUNATION, but found in writing a space of car -with expression. By transforming experiences and emotions into words, he discovered a welcome and presence path, which he now shares with the public in A place called me. Further information on the author’s social networks: @_fredhmf_ | @Agandiferent
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