Agamia, tolyamor and more: discover new relationship models

Agamia, tolyamor and more: discover new relationship models


From love without labels to couples living in separate homes, new ways of relating show how younger generations are reinventing love

Modern love no longer fits into fixed patterns. In recent decades the concept of relationships has undergone a silent revolution, especially between millennials and members of Generation Z, who have questioned traditional rules of romantic love, marriage and even cohabitation. Today, more fluid bonds, with varying levels of intimacy, freedom and commitment, are gaining ground. Among the concepts that symbolize this transformation are agamy, tolyamor, female hypergamy and the LAT couple, each of which represents a new way of living (or not living) love in hyper-connected and individualistic times.




Agamia: love without obligation of union

Agamy proposes a break with the traditional relationship model. The term comes from the Greek “a” (denial) and “gamos” (marriage or union), and refers to people who prefer not to be romantically or legally involved – often even choosing not to have children.

This choice reflects new priorities. Young people today seek autonomy, personal development and sustainability more than marital stability. And the numbers confirm the trend: according to IBGE, the Brazil There are 81 million single people, compared to 63 million married people – and formal marriage registrations have not yet returned to pre-pandemic levels.

LAT couples: together, but in different homes

Another model that is growing in the world is that of LAT couples (Living separately togetheror “living together apart”). In this configuration, partners maintain an intimate and stable relationship, but choose to live in different homes, sometimes in the same neighborhood, sometimes even in different countries. The mode is popular in Europe and inside North Americaespecially among young adults. In France10% of couples live like this; In Spain8%. The format offers a solution for those who value autonomy without giving up love.

Hypergamy: love that seeks evolution

Hypergamy is involvement with someone of higher social, economic, or power status. Research shows that nearly half of Americans (47%) view the model positively. And the phenomenon is also growing Chinadue to the high cost of living and gender inequalities that still persist.

Tolyamor: tolerate to continue

The term tolyamor, created by the podcaster Dan Selvaggiocombines “tolerance” and “polyamory.” Unlike traditional polyamory, which is based on dialogue and transparency, tolyamory describes monogamous relationships in which one or both partners choose to ignore cheating or side relationships to preserve the primary relationship. In practice, tolyamor can emerge as a cohabitation strategy, especially in long marriages where children, affection and partnership are present.

Love in the era of emotional freedom

These new configurations show that contemporary love is less linked to possession and more to emotional autonomy. The generation that grew up with the Internet, globalization and the discourse of individuality has learned that being together does not necessarily mean living under the same roof, nor following the same script. Ultimately, what these models reveal is an attempt to reconcile affection and freedom.

Source: Terra

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