In addition to artists, Jojo Todynho has recently countered fatphobic comments; experts point out the reasons and consequences of this behavior
“She’s put on weight,” “she’s got a belly,” “she doesn’t care.” These lines may seem archaic to many, but they are still common in the comments on many women’s publications on social networks, especially those highlighted in the media.
On Wednesday, 18, the actress Paula Oliveira she recorded a video in response to internet users who raised the possibility that she was pregnant. The comments arose after the actress posted another video, in which she showed off her clothes to participate in a rehearsal of the samba school in which she is the queen of drums, the Big river.
“I kept thinking this is a very serious conversation and could be a trigger for a lot of women,” she said, recalling that many still strive for aesthetic standards and “have been taught” to worry too much about their looks and their bodies .
“Think I had a belly? You know what? With or without a belly, I thought I was beautiful and that’s what’s important. Come here folks: not every belly is a baby’s,” she added.
A message I gave on another network, but I think it’s worth it here too? pic.twitter.com/Co9FqbBWMx
—Paolla Oliveira (@paolla) January 18, 2023
American singer and actress Selena Gomez she also fell victim to flak about her body after sharing photos from a road trip with friends in early 2023. Comments spiked after the artist appeared on golden globe the last day 10.
After the awards ceremony, she went live on Instagram alongside her sister and even said: “Now I’m a little older, because I enjoyed the end of the year holidays. But we don’t care”.
Personality who consistently rejects fatphobic comments, jojo todynho he recorded a video last Thursday 19, responding to users who said they “didn’t see any difference” in his body after starting to train.
“Those who train don’t train to make you see the difference. It’s not your body. Take care of your life. Are you a doctor, nutritionist, endocrinologist? What is your training?” asked the singer.
Jojo also pointed out that these Internet users are not concerned with the person’s weight, but with externalizing their prejudice.
Why is this still happening?
Eliana Santos de Farias, professor of the Psychology course at the Centro Universitário Braz Cubas, points out that the harmful behavior of some users towards women can be explained in two ways: culture and education.
The first reminds us that women in Brazilian society and in societies similar to ours have historically been created to be in the background.
“This woman is in a position where she is much more that person who imagines something beautiful or who should be there to compose the decoration, for social harmonization, than actually someone who is there to make her own choices and to live fully,” it says.
For the specialist, this explains why some people are surprised when a woman does not wear makeup or, in their opinion, has not taken care of her appearance.
“Another explanation, which comes through education, is how much we talk about important women in history and we place little value on what they actually did. Not just as a profession and source of income, but what they did in history, what choices they had, because those choices”, complete.
Eliana explains that, in the moment we live in today, some people believe that women have yet to occupy this aesthetic space and that, with the amount of exposure coming from social networks, this type of thinking reaches an even higher level.
The search for the perfect body
“Psychoanalysis says that when I point to the other, it’s something in me. In me I have difficulty seeing, but in the other it’s easier, right? This is a defense mechanism we call projection,” says Eliana.
For her, this could also be an explanation why many comments about women’s bodies come from other women, since they are the ones who suffer the most from society’s aesthetic pressure.
According to Yuri Busin, a psychologist, master’s and doctor of behavioral neurosciences at the Universidade Presbyteriana Mackenzie, this behavior can also be a form of what he calls “protectionism”.
“I equal each other, I find fault with other people’s bodies, I put some sort of negative note so that this becomes a situation where I feel better. It can happen, but it’s not necessarily a rule,” she says.
The expert points out that it is important to be careful when thinking about making a comment about someone else’s body and that the first step in this is to develop empathy, that is, to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
“We need to work on our self-esteem, our insecurities and our defense methods so that they don’t hurt us more and more. Otherwise, we end up engaging in behavior with our neighbors that we don’t like people to have around us.” people,” he adds.
What are the consequences and how to deal with them?
While the comments are recurring for women exposed in the media, this behavior is reflected in many girls and even men. The growth of plastic surgery, for example, is one of the consequences.
“In the last 10 or 15 years the aesthetic pressure for everyone to become ‘perfect’ has increased a lot and we realize that patients, even young ones, do not accept certain types of ‘defects’ that have always been normal”, says Wendell Uguetto, surgeon plastic surgery at the Brazilian Society of Plastic Surgery and Albert Einstein Hospital.
The doctor argues that, in the age of social networks, it is normal for patients to look for aesthetic procedures based on the appearance of digital influencers, but they do not take into account the action of filters and image editing.
“The problem with having an aesthetic pressure procedure is that, many times, what you are dissatisfied with is not what displeases you, but other people. So, it is very difficult for you to have any degree of satisfaction with the result after. finish. And this will lead to the search for further procedures,” he adds.
For psychologist Yuri Busin, one of the ways to take care of self-esteem is to make a list of positive things about yourself: “We all have it, we just have to learn to look and it’s something people usually don’t do” .
He and Eliana also emphasize the importance of therapy and self-knowledge. “In the opposite direction, we also have women who have managed to find their emotional balance point and who, instead of spending their time pointing at each other’s bodies, try to look at each other,” says the teacher.
*Intern under the supervision of Charlise Morais
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