We dismantled the popular belief that Aidan was a sensitive and committed guy that Carrie should have stayed with. She was a red flag with legs.
Was Mr. Big a jerk and, in contrast, did Aidan embody the archetype of the ideal boyfriend? For years, this issue has been raised among fans of ‘Sex and the City’ and now, after a photograph of John Corbett with Sarah Jessica Parker on the set of season 2 of ‘And just like that…’ was made public. the wound reopens. Aidan will return to Carrie Bradshaw’s New York universe, we still don’t know why, but for now it’s a good excuse to put on the table a truth avoided by many: Aidan Shaw, far from popular belief, was a shit boyfriend for our beloved columnist. Yes really. And we are going to prove it.
In general, Aidan is presented in ‘Sex and the City’, one of the 100 best series in history that you must see, as someone who is the complete opposite of Mr. Big. If Chris Noth’s character was an elitist posh who ran away from commitment and never spoke clearly about his emotions, Aidan was supposed to be the bohemian man who wanted a stable and calm relationship and who cared more about the warmth of home than the frivolity of Manhattan. Reality? Aidan was also a posh, although he was with that intense carpenter roll (a pijipi, wow), he was self-centered to the core and was only looking for a girl who would fit into his image of a traditional family, without caring who that girl was or what she wanted. He was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. At least Big was up front.
Case study: ‘Sex in the countryside’
A very illustrative episode about what Aidan was like is the 4×08 of the series, the one so memorable in which Carrie has to spend the weekend in the country house, the one so dumpy that Aidan had where Christ lost his slipper. To begin with, he announces to Carrie that this will be her plan for her weekend, without any kind of consensus and ignoring that it is not good for her because she has another commitment in the city; he ignores her and tells her to get by with the trains. But the worst happens in her own house, where she’s supposed to adjust to the country fantasy, while he’s doing nothing to make Carrie feel good..
Yes, it’s true that she’s a bit of a squeaky squealer every time she sees a squirrel (they’re rats in a cute outfit!), but since Carrie has made the effort, the least Aidan could do is spend some quality time with her. instead of leaving her alone all day while he plays DIY. So much so that she has to drag Samantha to entertain herself in that hell where there is no TV and hardly any Wi-Fi. Aidan wants to have his girlfriend in the cabin as part of the decoration, not to share the weekend together. And even though she hates that hole, she keeps going there to make their relationship work. Instead, does Aidan ever try to take an interest in the things Carrie likes, her favorite restaurants, her entertainment plans, or her world? No never. He’s not interested in Carrie’s world, he just wants to tear her out of there and into his..
Aidan: me, me, me
Not accepting Carrie as she was and trying to change her was a constant in their relationship., from the point and time they started their relationship, when he tried to get her to quit smoking. Quitting is fine, we might think. And yes, but the way Aidan pushed Carrie was always judging her, not in a constructive way. He was also against abortion (he was critical of Miranda when she brought it up to him) in such a way that Carrie did not feel free to tell him that she had had one years ago for fear of her reaction. That was the general trend: anything that didn’t fit Aidan’s scale of values was worthless.
That dynamic used to stay hidden behind Aidan’s easy-going, sensitive good-natured image, but it surfaced well during the explosive discussionsusually motivated by things about Carrie that did not fit (like that she had too many shoes), or with passive-aggressive behaviors (for example, when he flirted with a waitress in front of Carrie to make her jealous).
never got over infidelity
When Carrie was unfaithful to Aidan, that’s where their relationship should have ended. Because the second part was terrible due, essentially, to the fact that he never got over those horns or knew how to forgive them. Besides the incident with the waitress, the carpenter’s way of trusting Carrie was for her to have no social life. She didn’t accept him talking to other men, especially Big, and even came to blows with him in a deplorable display of fragile masculinity.
But Aidan’s lowest point was undoubtedly when he proposed to Carrie. Not for doing it but for the reasons that led her to do it: her jealousy and his insecurity. For him, marriage was a way to trust Carrie and make sure that she would be faithful to him, even if she disguised it as romanticism. When she told him that she felt overwhelmed by the prospect of the wedding, what he did was propose an express wedding, instead of giving her time and space, pressing her with now or never. Carrie, fortunately, knew how to see the ears of the wolf. “I love you, but I can’t marry you so that you trust me.” Say it daddy
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