Sex after childbirth. How to adapt to new realities and have fun?

On average, doctors advise waiting six weeks. But all the same, before resuming sexual activity, visit a gynecologist to make sure that sexual intercourse will go smoothly in every way. If you don’t feel the desire yet, don’t rush things.

Some of these rules apply to any sexual relationship, not just postpartum intimacy. The general recommendation for women who have recently become mothers is to pay maximum attention to your needs and to take your time if the desire has not yet returned.

1. Long prelude. It usually takes longer for a woman to “warm up”, and after giving birth you may need even longer foreplay. Your partner must be careful and patient, especially since foreplay can sometimes bring a lot of pleasure. Use different techniques, toys and accessories that put you in an erotic mood.

2. Relax. Most new mothers are literally dying from fatigue and lack of sleep. What kind of sex can we talk about? First of all, you need to take time for yourself and how to relax. A warm bath, massage and just strong, high-quality sleep will help.

3. Do not force. If strength for sex is still not enough, forcing yourself is the worst idea. Even if the partner insists. Especially if he insists! Your husband or boyfriend is forced to consider your “no” – it seems like an indisputable and obvious truth, but not everyone understands it so far.

4. Use lubricant. Due to the action of hormones, a woman who has just given birth may lack natural lubrication. Fortunately, pharmacies and sex shops offer a wide selection of lubricants – take the one that is water-based and natural in composition (safe for nursing mothers). Glycerin-based lubricants upset the balance of the vaginal microflora, and silicone-based ones irritate the delicate mucous membrane.

5. Find a comfortable position. In your current condition, your preferred sex position may need to be re-selected, as the trauma a woman sometimes experiences during childbirth can be painful.

6. Share responsibility. It often happens that a young mother takes on the whole life and, of course, most of the childcare. Telling your partner that you need help will help you relax more and build trust in the relationship. Strength for sex will increase immediately!

7. Train your muscles. After childbirth, the pelvic floor muscles may lose tone. If you want to get in shape, try classic Kegel exercises or special machines for intimate muscles.

8. Love and self-acceptance. These whales of self-awareness are more important than ever! Body changes after pregnancy and childbirth can be a real test of your self-esteem. Try to see them as what allowed you to become a mother. You are going through a new experience, and it can only be reflected in the body. The body is the repository of everything you experience and feel. Thus, each of its transformations is precious and important.

No one is capable of wanting intimacy all the time, especially a woman who has recently become a mother and is going through an exciting and somewhat stressful new stage in her life.

So the term “set” for sex seems to have come, and the corresponding mood is late? If it bothers you a lot, go to the gynecologist. And if the desire still returned, but during intimacy you felt pain, all the more so go ahead and be sure to tell your doctor about these feelings.

Sometimes the reason libido freezes at zero is postpartum depression. This state is certainly not to be neglected. Be sure to consult a psychiatrist. And don’t be shy! Many women face such a disease, but not everyone is ready to talk about it. You are not guilty of anything, you are neither a weak mother nor a bad mother! Postpartum depression is the result of hormonal imbalances and an imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain, not your imagined worthlessness.